Future in law drama, blah!

[josee]

I am sorry you are going through this. I hope you will get over all this drama and be able to plan the wedding of your dream with a big smile!

[isaidyes]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can completely understand how you're feeling. My future MIL drives me crazy too!

[MilitaryMrs.s-to be]

I'm so sorry for you to have to deal with this, I'm going through the samething and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. Its so sad to know that our FI's families don't support the decisions we make together as a couple. I really hope everything works out for you, and don't let them spoil your special day, its one day that you'll never get back, so live it up darlin'

[jo&delo2010]

I totally understand you! My in laws (actually I really like them..not his sis but...) At firstt his mom told me not to worry about money...she said it over and over again. To me that means that they were going to help with the wedding so we didnt have to do a DW.

 

When we found out it was gonna be about 30k..compared to his sisters which was 50k..lol My FI said its either the house or the wedding. I was so upset .... Never again did my MIL mention anything about $ again...lol

 

When we decided to do a DW because of the cost..she kept saying for us not 2. That we needed to have the wedding where we live....

 

So show me the $$$$$$$$$$$ lol

 

Not to mention they have told their friends they are helping us when my FI has already payed for everything...lol

[pineapple princess]

Bless your heart. Just follow kittenhearts advice. Mine was similar "No worries! I completely understand." Actually, I said that a couple times today and I am now getting married here.

 

you know i had one bridesmaid break into tears when i was a cruise bride, saying that she could not make it. Then, when i move it here - i think i can make it. LMAO! You will never be able to please everyone so you might as well be happy in the process. When it comes to DW (and maybe all weddings), i really do think that the people who don't come are wayyyy more sad then the bride and groom anyway.

 

just keep venting it out.

[nsbride2010]

I know how you feel, my FFIL is a total pain in the ass. He made a big deal about coming, how much its going to cost, etc etc but throws money around at his kids like it "ain't no thang", buys toys all the time (boat, pool, hot tub, new truck, the list continues)... we have never seen quite eye to eye, so its a good thing he lives a few provinces away.

 

However, FI has put his foot down and says that he is getting married in Punta Cana no matter what... its what WE want, and just because his family doesn't want it there doesn't mean thats what they will get! I'm proud of him for standing up for what is right, and you should be about your FI too, since thats what it sounds like he is doing! As long as you show up that day, and he shows up that day, thats all that matters in the end. Drama sucks, but just try to relax, forget about their bullsh*t and enjoy being engaged! You will not be the one who looks bad when the smoke clears

[Woodsylou]

you poor thing, how mean of them all. sometimes i think people are just jealous and are trying to make things hard. i hope you're ok xxx

[roo66]

I say book it if they come they come, if they dont make up the numbers with your friends.Its true the people that want to be there will be.Dont let them get to you anymore.I would almost put my last wage packet b4 christmas on it that your future MIL will not allow her husband to travel without her.The brother that says your going to hell, leave behind.He wouldnt want to wish you well on your journey to hell anyway would he WTF !!!Oh and if they do hop on board leave them out of any major roll ie maids groomsman.xxx

[cbell]

It's been a while since you originally posted, have they warmed up to the idea? My husband's mother had a horrible reaction to our choice of wedding location. I felt so bad for him since my family was so gung ho. He's the same way, has never asked his parents for anything and this day was about us and what we wanted, not them. It's not like we were asking them to pay anything for our wedding, just show up for a few days in Mexico. They live in FL and we live in Memphis so they would've had to travel anyway to come here for our wedding. In the end they had a fabulous time at the wedding and really enjoyed having their family together for a few days of fun. Chances of that happening again are slim so thankfully they really cherished the moment and were positive during their trip. Hopefully your future in laws will warm up to it too!

[Vallarta_2009]

I agree with CBell - most people grumble when it's not traditional but then they make the trip and have an awesome time! Hopefully things are getting better for you. Any updates?