Bridesmaids were a nightmare!!!

[endlesslove]

I had my bridal shower this past weekend (my parents live in FL in the winter so they wouldn't be home to throw me one closer to the wedding) and my two bridesmaids came from out of state. They ignored my whole family, and guests including myself. I let them stay at my house vs staying at a hotel. We just bought our house and did some major renovations to get it ready for them to visit.

 

They became an absolute nightmare come Sunday. They ignored me all day pretty much, had me in tears. My fiance went down to talk to them, and finally told them to get out of our house they were being way to disrespectful. They turned around and locked the door on him. He asked them three times to open the door or he would kick it down (military...temper, yes.) They refused to listen and he kicked the door in. It wasn't a hard kick btw, the door was held in by 2/6 screws and was VERY cheap.

 

They then left and called a girl they can't stand to come pick them up and spend the night with them. And in return called the cops to file theft charges against us fore things they left in our home. Needless to say this week has been a nightmare for me, including all the drama with mutual friends. I have had many friends cut ties with me because they are spreading vicious lies, and I just don't have the energy anymore to worry about it.

 

Now I'm left with one bridesmaid...and I'm kinda worried about her dropping out as well just bc of this. We have 3 guys on my fiances side...and I have one now. I would have asked my sisters to fill in, but sadly they can't make it to the wedding.

 

I know it only matters that my fiance and myself are there but I'm seriously hurt that this would happen, and they would treat me this way.

 

Did anyone here not have attendants stand at their wedding? I'm feeling iffy having three on his side, and only one on mine that I was thinking they could just sit with the normal guests. I just don't knwo what to do.

[Patti]

Oh, what a horrible story. So sorry that happenened. I'm only having one attendant. It doesn't matter how many you have. It's all about you and what's best for you. It will be ok.

[Jess]

uh I'm so sorry about your bridesmaids...what caused them to act like this though? or were they always like this? it just sounds really weird to me they would all of a sudden go nuts like this

 

maybe there is something else going on with them?

[Tam]

OMG!! WHat was their problem?? Obviously there's something going on with them... why would they do that to you!

I would probably explain to the GM what happened (which I'm sure they know) and just say that you guys decided to now have just one of each stand with you, but you still want them to be a part of your day... maybe give a poem/reading to say, MC or something?? And remember, they are guys they shrug everything off (unlike us girls).

Did they even try to contact you since? Anybody who's going to believe soley what they say isn't a real friend of yours either.

 

Be strong, hold your head high, you are better than that behaviour.

Keep us updated.

[KittenHeart]

Wow, that's kinda shocking that they would travel all the way out there to treat you like this in your own home! Did anything else happen to cause their behavior? Friends, let alone bridesmaids don't fly out to stay at someone's house and ruin a friendship...

 

Good luck, I hope you get this all sorted out!

[MayaLove]

OMG, that is horrible! I'm so sorry they treated you and your FI so badly.

 

I don't really have a solution for you but don't let those girls get you down too much. They aren't worth the stress. I'm sure you and your FI will be able to work something out in time.

[Meyer2010]

Wow... this is terrible! How old are they? They sound very immature! I agree that you should just move forward and I bet the GM will understand.

 

Good Luck girl! :hugs:

 

~ Erica

[bholthof]

Aw I'm sorry hun, that sounds terrible!!!

 

I know what you mean about a military temper, lol - my FI has one of those too!!

 

I hope everything works out for you - so sorry this happened!

[vlynnw]

I'm so sorry about what happened. I can't believe your bridesmaids would behave in such a juvenile fashion. They were supposed to be in your wedding and ignoring you and your guests is absolutely ridiculous, especially when you are providing them with a place to stay. I don't think there is anything wrong with you having one attendant at all. There is not point in having more bridesmaids if that is the way they act!

[KimmyD]

I am so sorry that sounds horrible. Clearly they are not good friends. Maybe you should think about having only one attendant for each of you or none at all. Remember, it is supposed to be a happy day, full of good friends and family. My FI and I are not having anyone stand up for us. We are keeping it simple and cannot wait to celebrate!