Just don't know what to do anymore....

[classadiva]

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Originally Posted by *Rachel* I think it's always a good idea to not bitch to heavily about your significant other to anyone- friends, family, what not. Obviously people that love you will have your back and then when you kiss and make up with your honey, they are left feeling like he's a dirt bag. Not saying that's what happened here- just a general comment.

ITA. Long after you have forgotten the indiscretion or slight of your mate...your family and friends will remember. You must be careful what you share about your mate with others.

[eec129]

You are all soooo right.

 

I went over to my parents house tonight at their request, because they wanted to talk and it ended up in a big argument, with them saying I will be miserable if I do this. It is one thing if they disagree, but to say they won't come is a completely different thing. They are free to give their opinions, but the end, they need to support me! But at this point, it doesn't sound like they are coming.

 

I am upset, but that makes me want to stick to my guns even more!

[diamondpooch]

Ugh, this is the worst! I, too, have regretted confiding in my parents when the FI and I got into a tiff during the wedding planning.

What I don't understand about your situation is that your parents and family should KNOW that fights happen and marriage is about working through the problems, not giving up! I'm sure you learned your lesson to work it out in your own mind most of the time! I've gone through something so similar! Hang in there and remember that, in the end, the only thing that matters is that you and your fiancee want to spend the rest of your lives together, and it's all about YOU TWO!

[diamondpooch]

Ugh, this is the worst! I, too, have regretted confiding in my parents when the FI and I got into a tiff during the wedding planning.

What I don't understand about your situation is that your parents and family should KNOW that fights happen and marriage is about working through the problems, not giving up! I'm sure you learned your lesson to work it out in your own mind most of the time! I've gone through something so similar! Hang in there and remember that, in the end, the only thing that matters is that you and your fiancee want to spend the rest of your lives together, and it's all about YOU TWO!

[shellk]

i think they are just worried that you call them soo upset and then try to make out everything is ok.i think you need to go and see them one by one and just explain that things got blown out of proportion and you was upset and emotional.explain you dont normally fight so there is nothing for them to be worried about.

 

it will then be up to them if they change their minds.just be careful that they don,t get involved in your problems

[karenk77]

I compleeeetely agree..I have a habit of telling my mother everything! because we're best friends which causes a problem because not that she holds it against him, but we're their children and they just want to see us happy, not realizing that the day that i am bitching him out to my mom as being the biggest douchebag ever, by the time i'm taking to her again the next day shes still bringing up the convo and its already long forgotten by me, i say im leaving all the time..and where do i go? nowhere! lol

we love those stupid freaks of nature..sigh....

[ChristinaP]

Hang in there girl.

I am sure most everyone on this forum (and beyond) can relate to your situation

to a point. I am very guility of being a very "sharing" person. FI hates this, as he is very private. Very female + Very male = very bad sometimes

I am glad that you and your FI have worked it our between the two of you..because that is who matters anyways! I know it must suck royally to have to deal with the family drama (especially if they might be using the situation to not attend a DW), but you know in your gut what is right. If that means continuing on and marrying the man you said "yes" to, then your fammily is going to have to get over it. Just keep on reminding yourself of the reasons you said "yes" to your FI...I'm sure you will get your excited feeling back!