Mom just informed me they wont go to mexico

[mlabbe]

That's terrible news! Did they say why they will not go to Mexico? Is it just Mexico, or a destination wedding in general?

[*Linds*]

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Originally Posted by TheOneDay Oh you poor thing! My fiancé if very close to his family but they are half way across the world. We had a tough choice to make. It came down to my family and all of our friends being able to attend or having it where his family could attend. After many weeks of discussion to figure out what was best for us we decided to get married in Mexico and web cast the wedding. His family will be attending on a laptop in the front row right where they belong. We will also have the entire reception video taped and will have a family dinner watching the video the next time we are with them. I hope this helps, good luck with your tough decision.

The webcast is such a good idea! What type of technology besides a laptop and webcam will this require? Just a wireless internet card??

[Meyer2010]

So sorry to hear your mom will not make it!

 

I went through this same thing!!!

 

Long story short: We got engaged in January, one month later my mom told me she could not make it. Then in April she said she could with her income tax money! Then by June she could not because of finances. Since I live in China with my FI, we were unable to take my dog so she is watching her while we live in China for 3 years. So, I worked out a payment plan with her. I was paying her $200/month for dog food, supplies, grooming and the rest was for the trouble of taking care of a large dog! So, we trimmed off $125/month for the next 2 years and paid for her ticket, my step-dad's ticket and my brother and sister. It was alot of money up front for us, but it will work out in the end. It would have broken her heart not to be there!

 

Is there something like that you could work out with your mom? Maybe you pay for her up front and then have her pay you $50/month or whatever she could afford? Maybe it's not the money though.

 

I really hope things work out! You need your mom there!

 

Good Luck! HUGS!

[TheOneDay]

My fiancé talks to his family on Skype every weekend so we are fairly familiar with the use of this type of equipment. You are correct all you need is a Laptop, Webcam, Air Card (and someone to work the equipment). I have just a few suggestions if you decide to go that direction. Make sure you check out the battery life on your laptop before you leave to assure it can handle the amount of time you wish to use it (peripheral devise like Web Cams can drain the battery). You can buy and extended battery if needed. I would also research a decent Webcam; you don’t want to be little spots on a screen to them. Make sure you get an air card that works in Mexico and lastly sit the person working the equipment by the speakers or you can by and extended microphone and have the person performing the ceremony wear it.

[sunstarsmoon]

I am sorry, I think all of us in one way or another have someone special that we want to share our day with but they cannot be there for one reason or another. But you have to do what you want to do. For us I know we would not be happy getting married at home, yes everyone else would be happy but its about you and where you want your wedding to be, have the wedding of your dreams, if you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life!

[vlynnw]

I'm having the same issue with my parents, my dad does not want to travel he thinks DW's are stupid and you are supposed to be married where you grew up. I'm planning my wedding and having my mom and everyone work on him, I'm hoping by the big day he makes it as we are a very close family and it won't seem right without him. Just remember though that this is your wedding day and you and your FI have to do what is most important to you.

[SusieQ]

We were really worried about FI's mom not coming because she really doesn't like Mexico... Not sure why she has only been there once and it was off the cruise ship. When we told her our plans she was totally onboard and I have to say "shocked" never a bad word about Mexico again.

If she refused to go we would still be DW, we feel it's our day and you can choose to be there or not. I guess it is easier for me because I don't have parents to have that torn feeling.

I think you should find our more as to why they are refusing to go. Good Luck.... Let us know how you make out... Maybe we can help you out with a strong arguement as to why they should go.

[SusieQ]

We were really worried about FI's mom not coming because she really doesn't like Mexico... Not sure why she has only been there once and it was off the cruise ship. When we told her our plans she was totally onboard and I have to say "shocked" never a bad word about Mexico again.

If she refused to go we would still be DW, we feel it's our day and you can choose to be there or not. I guess it is easier for me because I don't have parents to have that torn feeling.

I think you should find our more as to why they are refusing to go. Good Luck.... Let us know how you make out... Maybe we can help you out with a strong arguement as to why they should go.

[Shommy128]

That's terrible! BUt I agree with everyone, you have do what you want. It's your day and you don't want to look back on your wedding day and always wonder how great it would have been to have your day in Mexico. This is your special day for you and your hubby to be as long as the two of you are happy with Mexico, that's all that matters!

 

Good luck

[Angela139]

Initially my mother said she wouldn't come as well. I was heartbroken! But FI suggested that she might be doing it to pressure us to change our mind and stay local, and he urged me to tell her we were doing it anyway and just wait and she would come around. And he was absolutely right! Two weeks passed and she called and said of course she wouldn't miss her daughter's wedding. Now I've had to pay for her to go, lol, but still.

 

None of my siblings are coming though - I agree with everyone else, it is your wedding and you really have to try to focus on just you and FI and YOUR day, and not let negative responses or RSVPs get you down.