Memorial ideas for FI's dad?

[brandynd]

So, I didn’t see a thread on this already, so if there is one I apologize. FI’s father passed away unexpectedly this past May, and that’s been really hard for Andy. I know that it’s going to hurt him to not have his dad at our wedding, and I wanted to surprise him with some sort of a memorial for his dad at the wedding. I’ve seen those little photo charms that go on your bouquet, but I really don’t think given the circumstances that that would be appropriate (FI’s mom has made some less than savory comments about my relationship with Dale and his opinion about me, even though they had been divorced for over 20 years at the time of his passing), and I don’t want to upset any members of the family by doing that.

Are there any other suggestions of something that I could do for FI so that he can have his father be a special part of our day? It would mean so much for us to be able to honor his father, while still being able to enjoy our wedding day and not have it be filled with sadness over the loss.

[jo&delo2010]

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Originally Posted by brandynd So, I didn’t see a thread on this already, so if there is one I apologize. FI’s father passed away unexpectedly this past May, and that’s been really hard for Andy. I know that it’s going to hurt him to not have his dad at our wedding, and I wanted to surprise him with some sort of a memorial for his dad at the wedding. I’ve seen those little photo charms that go on your bouquet, but I really don’t think given the circumstances that that would be appropriate (FI’s mom has made some less than savory comments about my relationship with Dale and his opinion about me, even though they had been divorced for over 20 years at the time of his passing), and I don’t want to upset any members of the family by doing that. Are there any other suggestions of something that I could do for FI so that he can have his father be a special part of our day? It would mean so much for us to be able to honor his father, while still being able to enjoy our wedding day and not have it be filled with sadness over the loss.

What about having maybe cuff links, a watch, or a charm inscribed with his father name or initials thats only really for him to see or know. I have seen the memorial candels...even ones that float in a glass cylinder with a name etched on outside of glass. Maybe a memory book (frm snap fish)with pics of him and his father that you could give him before wedding. His dad will always be there in spirit and he will be happy that you remembered his father.

I'm not gonna have my mom at my wedding and its hard! I'm doing the photo charm for my flowers. I think if I saw one of those memorial picture frames I would loose it! I wanted to do a slide show but since everything will most likely be outside I X that out as well. I will def. keep you in mind if I think of anything.

[Sheree10]

I agree with giving him something with an inscription of his Dad's name/initials, something he can wear like the cuff links, piece of jewelry in memory.

[Patti]

I agree with the ladies. I, personally, think that is a nice idea.

[tata2]

My FI's parents have both passed away and I am going to get a white handkerchief with his parents initials embroidered on it. He can carry it in his pocket and also use it to catch his tears as they would when he was a child. I am crying just thinking about it and I know he will love it.