"Please, No Boxed Gifts"- Huh?

[autjo]

Well put!

 

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Originally Posted by classadiva IMHO, if someone cares enough about you to purchase ANYTHING for you...you should humbly accept it!!

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Originally Posted by classadiva My mother always says...if they knew better...they would do better.

Also, I'm not against registries, just don't think they belong on an invite. Include your wed-site in the invite package and put your registry stuff on the wed-site. The people who don't internet probably gossip enough with other guests so they will figure out where you are registered anyways

[adelaide]

Kind of hilarious though, no?

 

You've got to feel a little bad for them, as they likely didn't realize how it was going to come off in print.

 

I always give money anyhow, but I think it is a little tacky to ask for it...

[beadinggirl]

I agree that it was tacky to put on the invitation, it wouldn't sit well with the guests and really does take away from the importance of the wedding event itself. Wow, thanks for your comments, these are some great suggestions to think about. We're also planning to move overseas within a year after our wedding, so naturally we'd prefer to get monetary gifts. I was even thinking to post on our website for registry to request gift cards from a list of stores, just because I understand how giving cash may be uncomfortable for some guests.

[rodent]

Maybe they just really like gift bags

[Patti]

I agree it was pretty tacky. Hopefully, they didn't realize how it was going to sound. We're older, as well, and don't need or want anything. My FI wanted to put "no gifts" on the invitation but I was told (or read) not to mention gifts on the invitation, it means that you "expect" a gift just by sending the invitation.

[Melidell]

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I think you should buy a blender, take it out of the box and wrap it up as the gift

Lol... you're nicer than me- I was going to suggest that you take them at their word and just not get them anything but an (empty) card! Maybe wedding stress is getting to me and making me cranky, though, so take my advice with a grain of salt!

[classadiva]

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Originally Posted by autjo Well put! Also, I'm not against registries, just don't think they belong on an invite. Include your wed-site in the invite package and put your registry stuff on the wed-site. The people who don't internet probably gossip enough with other guests so they will figure out where you are registered anyways

ITA. The site that we are using for our website handles the whole registry issue pretty nicely I think....it says:

"The best gift of all will be your presence at our wedding, but we know some of you will insist on getting us a gift, so we are registered at...."

BTW...in reference to the post above about gift cards on the registry...I think that is a great idea. Some people just really do not like to give cash. I have seen registries for all sorts of things....including one wedding that I was in where the bride and groom registered for a down-payment on a house!!! That's right...we could make deposits into a bank account for this purpose and certificates were given out to those that deposited to give to the bride and groom.

[FutureMrsLewis]

I'd be really cruel and give them something in a gift bag... Or maybe take it a step further and give them a big basket of fruit lol It's not in a box, therefore not breaking the rules

[~*Kathy*~]

I probably just wouldn't even give them anything if I saw that lol that's just me.

 

DH and I specifically made it clear to our guests that we didn't want money or gifts but many people, even those who did not attend, gave us money...I was actually a little annoyed because I said I didn't want the money and felt bad about it. Oh well I guess.

[SSNM]

It is definately not in line with etiquette to put ANYTHING on the invitation regarding gifts, even if it is to say 'no gifts'. However, I have never been really put off by an invitation that has said anything of it whether it was 'monetary gifts only' or 'no boxed gifts' or whatever. Some people have very valid reasons for it (i.e. moving away) and honestly I wouldn't want to have to deal with getting rid of a gift that I didn't want and then have the giver get upset when they found out that I did as much. And believe me, I do not like clutter so unless I have a use for it, I WILL get rid of it.

 

My sentiment is, I would never show up at a wedding without a gift anyway and I absolutely HATE gift buying so I appreciate the extra direction. If I felt put off for any reason or if I didn't feel comfortable giving the gift they were asking me for I would just not go to the wedding.

 

Unless I was being forced to go to the wedding by the bridegroom, I would NOT bring a tacky gift to spite (I think that in itself is tacky).

 

Finally, if I was the type to get put off by an invitation that requests a certain type of gift, then then I could not, in fairness, be the type to get upset if the bridegroom decides that my gift is not needed and tactfully gives it away or sells it.