They Just Don't Get It

[DMB1980]

I don't know if it is me, but I am trying to explain the concept of a destination wedding to my family. Something simple yet elegant. That is what I am going for. However, it is turning into so much more. I now have 5 bridesmaids, and they want me to add junior bridesmaids, flower girl, and a ring bearer. HEEEELLLLOOOOOO!!!!!! That defeats the purpose of the simple yet elegant....lol It is my day and I am trying to get the family including the FI to understand, but I am not being heard right now. ARRRGGHHHH!!!! I apologize if this was commented on before, or if there is another thread, But I just had to speak my mind for a minute.

 

 

[shellk]

you are right i would stick to your guns from day one then they will get it.do what you want to do

[SusieQ]

I agree.... but the brakes on and tell everyone "save your 2 cents your going to need those and a few more to pay for your trip "If you choose to come", this is my wedding and it is going to my dream not yours.

You'll be ruffling a few feathers throughout this planning process... get use to it honey.... We'll be here to listen!!!!!

I had to un-invite a friend because she was negitive, I hear your fustration, Just stand your ground

[Ginalyn]

Stay strong! My family didn't get the concept of a DW either, but after I showed them tons of pictures from real DWs they got my point.

[cutedimplestee]

Stand your ground!! At the end of the day it's what you want. Don't let anyone else spoil that.

[Patti]

Absolutely stand your ground - but try not to get upset. Just let them all know that they have had their special day and now, this time, it's your special day.

 

I wish I could have had more people/attendants but this isn't our first marriage. There is just 11 of us. I'm divorced and my FI is a widower, however, this is the first "real" wedding that I've had, so we're making it as special as we can. One of my daughters is my MOH and his son is his BM, however, I have another daughter that is pregnant and her doc told her no way she could travel at that time (we thought we were planning it early enough for her to attend). My FI's daughter won't come - she thinks it would be "weird" to see her father get married. I don't think it's anything personal towards me, she just doesn't want her father to be with anyone (she's 28, married with a 4 year old). Just had to vent, myself. Sorry it's on your post. Good luck - and keep your chin up.

[azulskies]

I agree with everyone..you have to put your foot down from the get go. I think it's helpful to show family & friends examples of other DW's through pictures. It shows them that many people do this and gives them an idea of how laid back and simple you'd like your wedding. I found that some people had just never heard of the idea or knew anyone that had their wedding in another country or across the US. Good luck..I'm sure it'll all work out and eventually everyone will get on board!

[DMB1980]

Thanks to everyone for the words of encouragement. I know that you all know that you just get those days where everything just seems like there is sooooooooo much to deal with. I am so happy that I found this place because now I know that I am not in it alone. We're family.....lol

Hugs for everyone.

 

[trance_angelx0x]

Sometimes it's good to just let it all out right? Glad you feel better.

[alkoch]

Good luck, believe me you will have a lot more misunderstandings as the planning process goes by! Do what you want- that's always the answer for everything dealing with the wedding!