Help with MOH

[nicitica]

I've decided to only have 1 Maid of Honor and 1 Matron of Honor. I have too many female cousins and friends to draw the line otherwise. How do I go about NOT hurting my other friends' feelings?

[SSNM]

Hi and welcome ashore BDW!

 

Most people will incorporate loved ones in other ways in the wedding, like doing a reading, or giving them a special flower, or ushering, or some other task that makes them feel involved. You will find tonnes of advice on that here in the forums.

 

Happy planning

[*tanga*]

Just tell people you are keeping it low key and don't want a huge bridal party. If they get upset - explain that they should have your best interests at heart. that is exactly what I did.

[lnf_munchkin]

I stressed over this too. When I told one of my friend that obviously expected to be in my bridal party, she totally validated my decision. Her response was "You know we are giving up a trip to Italy to visit family for this" and I told her while it meant the world for her to be at my wedding, she had to prioritized herself, and I would understand if she decided not to come. She really doesn't have my best interests in mind if she throws that in my face. And while I do want her there I don't want to have to suffer for it either. After she had a day or two to calm down . . . she did tellme she understood my decision.