BM Costs

Sparkles8300 · September 29, 2009

I felt that since I had picked a resort where is it $191pp per night plus they had to pay for their air fare, I wanted to make sure that the dresses were under $150. I ended up finding super cute dresses at David's Bridal that came to $120 after tax. I felt that it was a fair price and I still picked up the tab for the girls shoes. I do feel that $200 is high after asking them to pay their way. Of course they expect to buy their dresse and shoes but maybe you could pick up some of the tab somewhere in their as part of the bridesmaids gifts. I mean if I was a BM I would rather have the bride buy me my outift vs. give me a gift...so that was the logic I used when buying them their shoes and jewelry instead of something else.

rodent · September 29, 2009

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Originally Posted by YaelM

I dont know what financial situations your bridesmaids are in but I agree with Morgan and think 200$ for a dress is a bit much. If you are dead set on the dresses would you be able to pay for 50% of each girls' dress?

For my wedding since i didnt buy the dresses for them, i let my MOH and BM pick their own dresses - i just gave them a color pallet, that way they could spend as little or as much as they wanted.

I love the just pick a color arrangement. I think I have finally served in my last wedding, but I really wish my friends would have done that. One let us at least pick our own style, but it had to be from a certain brand. I got the cheapest one, which was $100 using the discount site. They were all a material that I knew wouldn't look good on me & sure enough it's clinging to my stomach in every picture. It's just rarely good when someone else is doing the shopping. Anyway, I'm looking forward to days of picking out my own clothes for weddings.

wilsoml2 · September 29, 2009

I tend to agree with Morgan, I wish that this crazy tradition never got started! As a first time bridesmaid this past year, I was shocked how much money I had to spend just to be in the wedding! Now, if you've spent that much to be in your friends' weddings, then I don't think they'll expect anything different to be in yours. It's definitely a case-by-case basis and you know your friends best. Personally, I'll be paying for two nights stay, dresses, makeup and hair for my bridesmaids.

Meyer2010 · September 29, 2009

Well, both of my bridesmaids are family so they were coming to our wedding anyways! So I lucked out. But I did pay for my MOH's dress! She is my 21 year old sister who is a full time nursing student. She is very tight on money. I thought it was only fair.

So if you don't want to pay for their dress, I think it would be okay to offer to pay for their hair & shoes. You are right when you say BM's spend alot of money on your special day!

Just remember to pick a BM dress that they can wear again. I picked jcrew strapless dresses that they can wear again and again!

Good Luck!

TAHOEJENI · September 29, 2009

Understand your worries. We've chosen not to have a bridal party for that reason. Everyone is going to be spending money and we don't want anyone worrying about exxtra things....

Jeni