Affirmation of our decision to have a DW!

KJT1985 · September 21, 2009

Numerous times throughout this process I've thought - GOSH! I'm SO glad we chose to have a destination wedding!

Most recently it was because of some hearsay about my cousin. Apparently she told a family friend (who then told my mom, who told me) that she doesn't want to spend the money to come to our wedding because she expects to be engaged in the next year and THINKS I will make up an excuse not to go to her wedding. (fiance and I recently had to relocate 16 hours away for his job) At first it really annoyed me because I have NEVER given her reason to think that I wouldn't care about such a huge life event. She's never really invited me places to think that all I ever do is back out and make excuses.

Then I see on facebook that her and her boyfriend have booked a trip to Ireland. WOW, way to make me feel great. It's obviously not a money issue if they can afford that trip. BUT THEN I start thinking, THIS is exactly why we chose a destination wedding! It pretty much eliminates the people who don't give a crap about you. On our special day we will only be surrounded by family and friends who actually love and care about us. I'm so glad we chose a DW so we don't have to pay to feed and quench the thirst of people with THAT kind of attitude! Because there's no doubt she'd be there if it was convenient for her.

When these things happen we should all stay positive and look for the bright side. What's going on in your planning process that makes you think "thank god we chose to do it this way!"

shellk · September 21, 2009

i think we just feel upset when people don,t feel excited/happy for us.its one time in our lives we want the attention.never mind its her miss out.shes maybe a little jealous?

Krista_H · September 21, 2009

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Originally Posted by KJT1985

BUT THEN I start thinking, THIS is exactly why we chose a destination wedding! It pretty much eliminates the people who don't give a crap about you. On our special day we will only be surrounded by family and friends who actually love and care about us.

I couldn't have said it better myself!!

Positanobride10 · September 21, 2009

KJT1985- I am so with you! A destination wedding does weed out the folks who don't really care enough to go. The bright side is you'll have fun, and know the people that are there want to be there and truly support you. This is my #1 reason for choosing Positano, Italy for my destination.