What to do if people respond "NO" to your Pre-RSVP

[TheFutureMrs.Sears]

I sent out pre-rsvp's with my STD's. Now if people respond "NO" do I still send them a formal invite? I'm not sure as to what the proper etiquette is.

[SSNM]

If you sent out an RSVP with the STD and they responded 'no', then I would say you don't have to send a formal invite to them...seems redundant. If you are sending a formal invite to people who already RSVP'ed 'yes', then I would just make that invite more like a 'here are the final details' invite. If your 'no' people change to yes, then you can just brief them on the information (referring them to your website or your bridal party would be the best way to deal with mind-changers if you have it).

[Erika J]

It is proper etuquette to send the invite anyways.

[*Meagan*]

I agree etiquette is to send the formal invites either way. I know a lot of people can not or are not coming and Im still sending them all a formal invite.

[TheFutureMrs.Sears]

Thanks. I was leaning towards sending them anyway, just in case they change their minds from the time the responded No to when the formal invites go out. Also, I didn't want to be rude by not sending them, if Im supposed to.

[SSNM]

Nope; if they RSVP'ed no, they should not expect an invite, IMO. Besides, invites cost money and the more you can save, the better.

 

If you had just sent an STD and they just verbally told you no (i.e. informally) then I would send a formal invite to get their final answer. But, they RSVP'ed no from the start. Otherwise, there was really no point of doing an RSVP in the first place.

[blumenthale]

yeah, I think if they said no, then they are not expecting a invite. why wast money. It may seem pushy to send invites to people who said no.

[melette]

IMO.. Etiquette is to send formal invites even though they said "No" with the Pre-STD. During my experience. There were a good amount of guest change their mind in-between the Pre-STD and when the formal invites were sent out. It may seem like a waste of money, or redundant.. But, It's just courtesy to send them anyhow. Hope this helps.

[TheFutureMrs.Sears]

Thanks so much for all of the advice.

[Princess402]

I just had this discussion with FI earlier this week!

 

We asked for people to pre-RSVP to our Save-the-Dates just to give us an idea of how many people are thinking of coming. Now, in our case we said that it was an informal RSVP and that we realized that things may change for people in the next year.

 

FI thinks that for those that say no, they should not get an invite. He feels like it's redundant if they've already said they are not coming! Almost like we're bugging them to come?

 

I totally disagree. Everyone is going to get an invite that got an STD because people might change their minds and it doesn't seem fair to essentially un-invite people just because they RSVP'd no at this time.

 

I think I'm winning the argument because those that have said no via our website have all left comments to the effect that they hope to maybe find a way to come, but in at this point if they had to decide it would be a no. So, I'm definitely going to still invite them because maybe they will be able to make it! I don't want to take that choice away.