I feel like I have to vent!!

[nsbride2010]

Ok let me start by saying I love my FI's family 99% of the time... but there are things that they do that drive me BONKERS!

 

My family is from Eastern Canada, and my FI's Dad and family live in Montreal. When we began researching DW locations, we found a travel agent who could give us a fantastic deal on a package out of Toronto, Ontario. Since there are no direct flights from Halifax to Punta Cana in late June, we decided that it was the best option. For those that don't know Canada well, Toronto is THE main hub for domestic and international flights... but Montreal is a close second. So we decided to take the package from Toronto, since it was actually almost $400 less than a package leaving from Montreal. Noone in my family is complaining that it is leaving from Toronto (since it is really the only option), but my FI's family and ESPECIALLY his Dad complain that it is such a huge hassle to have to drive ALL THE WAY TO TORONTO. We are talking about a 6 hour drive here; my family (should they choose to drive to Toronto) will be looking at 18 hours. But noone seems to care, since the package is so cheap. FFIL keeps saying he hates the idea of Toronto, why didn't we do the package from Montreal, blah blah blah even after it is explained to him ad nauseam that it is MUCH cheaper. He has even gone so far as to say that even though he has put down his deposit on the trip, that he will change the name to some of his other family members (his brothers and sisters) and fly out of the nearest US hub, which is only 1 hour from his home. This seems to be pretty selfish and insulting to me, and its frustrating... I just want to shake him and say "Wake up!!! My family is driving 18 hours or taking a flight to Toronto without a complaint!!! WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM" kind of thing! Obviously I won't, because it would be a huge disrespect, but its insinuating that I am only thinking of my family. My family is telling me not to worry about him (since he is kind of known for putting a negative spin on EVERYTHING), but its hard.

 

I just had to get this off of my chest, FI is tired of hearing about it from all sides, and I know it hurts his feelings (the way his Dad is acting).

 

<3 You ladies are the best

[*Lo*]

Arg that is frustrating. It's frustrating when anyone complains about anything to do with your wedding because of all the work we've put into making it so awesome!!

 

I'd say if he wants to fly out of whereever then let him! Who cares how he gets there. Maybe he will then shut up about it if he travels to a different city for his flight or just flies out of Montreal.

 

Goodluck!!!

[Chiquita]

I agree! Let him make his own travel arrangements and flight schedule if he doesn't appreciate yours. It's his money he'll be wasting

[Stamperamma]

Not that this is going to help you but, let him do what he wants, you did your best to get him a good deal if he does not want to take it then so be it. He is the one that will be traveling on his own when in the end you and your other guests can party on the plane down.

 

Dea

[sjmacphe]

I agree with the other ladies, he is free to travel from Montreal, it shouldn't really be an issue - you can get really cheap connecting flights if he wants to fly to Toronto first - but if they have the option of going direct then why not let them take it? Even if you're on different flights, as long as they make it for the wedding then I would say let them do what they want. At least they are all supporting your decision - something to be happy about (even if they are somewhat stubborn I really don't think he's making a ridiculous request, seems fair to me!). Let us know how it works out though

 

(PS I feel your pain, we all have to go to Toronto for our trip in June from Winnipeg/Halifax - it sucks, we have an 8 hour lay over on the way back, but oh well!)

[nsbride2010]

The problem is, they will either arrive a week before us and have to leave the morning after the wedding, or they would arrive a day late. I'm just tired of complaints for nothing... its tough when so much work goes in, only to have someone else bash it down!

[sjmacphe]

Ok, well that makes more sense...but maybe you could ask for a quote for a connecting flight so they don't have to drive? We got connecting flights from our TA for about $120 for both ways so it would be cheaper than driving/parking !

[SSNM]

Hey,

I would just let him do what he wants. Just let him know, however that he will not be considered part of the group so if anything happens (heaven forbid) that you have to change dates or even hotels, he is SOL.

 

Don't worry; it wil work out in the end

[Debs]

Let him pay seperatly for a connector from MTL to TO then. No biggie. They leave practically every hour anyway!