How can he do this?

[*Meagan*]

That is just not right. I would def. confront him! I am so sorry you have to go through this!!!

[SusieQ]

sorry hun that really sucks!!!! I am wondering how close you are to your dad, I have an adult son 20 and his dad and I have been apart for quiet sometime and I know with out a doubt if his dad or I have a sore elbow or cold he knows about and is informed daily about the progress of our healing... we're really tight. We never allowed our divorce to take away from the relationship each of us have with our son.

I am asking that question because what the hell was he thinking that he could tell such a lie and get away with it... Dear God your his daugther... If he couldn't make it for what ever reason be bloody honest 'she's your girl'.............. Sorry I am not liking your dad right now,

[t&kJanuary2010]

Josee,

 

I really hope you are able to voice your thoughts to your dad. I am lucky to know my dad booked today...thank heavens. My heart goes out to you. Yes you are marrying the men of your dreams but that gives dad no excuse to not be truthful. I know my dad is not a HUGE fan of this whole thing but he has been pretty receptive now that he has had time to process it and other family members are attending. Now Pop-pop won't stop! Not happy with the cost, the travel, the parking, anything..but I pray he makes it there and has a FABULOUS time. Good Luck...sorry to turn it around on me...clearly I needed to vent too...LOL. Thanks!

[islandbride317]

WOW.....I have heard some ridiculous nonsense in my day, but that just might OFFICIALLY take the cake!

 

Josee, I am truly stunned and don't know what to say except I am SO SORRY that you have to go through all of this absurdity. I can't imagine someone's father making up lies to get out of walking his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day -- it just boggles my mind. And I agree with the others; you will need to confront him! Did his girlfriend know that he had lied to you, and slipped telling you, or did she tell you because she feels bad and thinks you have the right to know? I'm sure they are gonna experience a rift when the cat comes out of the bag for sure.

 

HANG IN THERE, STAY STRONG, and know that your BDW sisters are here for you, sweetheart!

[josee]

Thank you all for your support. My FI and I talked about the situation last night and like all of you, he said that I should confront him about this. I know for a fact that my father's girlfriend did not know what my father said to me for cancelling his trip. I am sure that by confronting my dad it will cause her problems and that I don’t want. I will probably just let it go even if it is killing me inside . I just hope that in the long run, it won't ruin my relationship with my dad.

[SusieQ]

Sending you hugs.... The one person in your life that you never amagine letting you down is Daddy!!!!! Stay strong and put it behind you. One day he will be sick and want you there for him, plan a vacation!!!!!!

[finzup]

wow. best of luck .. the convo with your dad is not going to be easy... try to keep an even temper because I know I would be so upset that I would be all snappy and yelling just to hide how hurt I was..

 

I hope it all works out and it's just something silly and you guys can work it out.

[Candice]

I am very sorry to hear this happened to you. I cannot even begin to imagine this or how it would make me feel. Do you and your father have an open relationship at all? How do you feel about confronting him? What do you think his reasoning is for not wanting to go and to lie to you? Maybe he is having finical trouble and instead of telling you about this he made up a differnt lie? In no way am I saying what he did to you is correct but maybe check into it more and see why he felt he had to lie to you. Sometimes people are good at hiding stuff and behind it all there is something no one ever knew was actually happening.

 

I wish you the best of luck with whatever happens and try and remember although it will be sad and unfortunate that you dad isn't there, this is your day and make the best of it!

[islandbride317]

Sending you hugs and good thoughts....and hoping that things work out for the best (ie. he comes around and decides that he needs to support his daughter during this very special, memorable time in her life and he should put himself aside for her happiness!!!)

[josee]

I am sure my dad won't change his mind. I did not talk to him since I learned the truth; I think it is the best thing right now. I know it will be difficult facing him for a while and frankly I prefer not to see him until I learn how to deal with this. Just didn't figure out how yet