Very Irritating!!

[boscobel]

Quote:

Originally Posted by TammyB I'm with you on this as well. NONE of my family attended our wedding. And my best friend flaked out too. We have 6 guest there and to be honest, I was really sad at first that no one from my side went. Fast forward to the week we were in Cabo, and I could have cared less. We had fun, did what we wanted to do and I opened my eyes to think "if we really matter the "X" then they would have been there". I got a ton of slack from people too about them thinking I should have an AHR but these are the same peope who could have gone to the wedding. So piss on them.. :-)

Seems as though we are all in the same boat. My fiance and I are paying for my sister and her 2 kids to come with us (she is in the beginning of a divorce with a 3 and 1 year old, being a stay at home mom, she can't afford it, but it is VERY important to me that she be there), but my parents are still saying they can't afford to go (orig they thought they were going to have to pay for my sis and the kids). I even told them to decrease the $ they were going to give me for the AHR by the amount it would take for them to travel with us, but they STILL bitch. At this point, I decided to go ahead with what I want and everything will fall into palce later. So I am happy to see in your thread, Tammy, that you didn't regret anything, cuz I am so scared that the week before the wedding I will be pissed that only one of my girlfriends is there and neither of my parents!

But back to the original post - WE support you and understand the need to chose what you envision as the "perfect wedding". It's hard, esp witht he over-analyzing cuz I drive myself insane with that shit! But deep down, you know what you want, and I say go with it. Good luck!

[starchild]

Don't feel selfish, it's just a casualty of a DW. It happens. As I went through this I sometimes thought that some people were jealous...like their wedding was just downtown at a hotel and they don't want to validate my cool DW wedding. LOL That was for the people I know with money who like me and FI but still griped. Haters will find reasons - it's so far, you can't expect people to go, we already have a summer vacation planned the following month, etc. In the end they didn't come and we didn't miss them AT ALL.

 

Now the people who couldn't afford it I had sympathy for and if it was in the budget I would have paid for them.

 

Want to sort out the good from the bad in your circle of friends and family? Throw a DW!! You'll soon see who really cares. I had broke students on payment plans come to our wedding and wealthy people decline because they are stubborn and old fashioned. We lost a bridesmaid and two groomsmen in the 11th hour because they failed to plan, but it didn't matter. We had fun!

[Adamsgrrl]

F%$# Them.

 

It happens to alot of people. If they really wanted to be a part of your day then they would have found a way to pay for it. Period.

[MsShelley]

thank you, all of you girls, it is just frustrating!

 

 

 

 

Quote:

Originally Posted by Adamsgrrl F%$# Them.   It happens to alot of people. If they really wanted to be a part of your day then they would have found a way to pay for it. Period.

I somewhat do feel this way, but then again if it were my family who wasn't there, then I would be upset....