Bridal Shower

[~Keira~]

So I'm going along enjoying my day when I get a call from my bridesmaid and then another from my maid of honor. They're now at odds as to what I would like for my bridal shower and what they would like to have. I've made it known all along that I only want one party with both family and friends there. I've drawn up a guest list and now with everyone there are 25 people (including me).

 

My maid of honor is my cousin (she's practically a sister) and she wants to play games and have some silly fun. You know where when the bride opens the gifts of sexy panties everyone does the ooooo and has a giggle. Shes down with planning 1 big shin dig and making sure it's fun and exciting. <-- Bridal Shower A

 

My bridesmaid (along with another FSIL and MIL) wants to plan something that only includes a max of 10 people. That would be 8 for family and 2 friends, including themselves. They want it to be more reserved and apparently they don't like any of the games that my cousin has suggested. <-- Bridal Shower B

 

I don't know what to do now. I really wish they both would have left me out of it because now I almost feel like saying forget it. I don't want my bridesmaids to be pissed at each other over a party for me. That just makes me uncomfortable and I don't think it's necessary.

 

Now they're talking about throwing me 2 different parties. 1 for family and the other for friends. It's not what I envisioned my bridal party to be like at all. I'm worried that if they go with the 2 party option I won't enjoy either of them as much as I would have if it were an all in one.

 

Sorry for banging on about something so silly but I'm irritated and stressed out now, when really I shouldn't be involved.

 

So ladies, hit me with your best advise. Anyone out there in a similar situation?

 

Thanks!

[autjo]

I have decided that people get really stupid about this kind of stuff so please don't apologize for them putting you in an awkward situtaion. It sounds like you have already told them what you wanted and your MoH/cousin listened while the other ladies did not. I would talk to them and say that that you really appreciate the time and effort they are putting into the shower and that you would like to only have 1 with the list you already provided.

 

Besides... Your day is quickly approaching so do you even have the time to attend 2 parties?

[Tam]

I would agree with Autjo, You made it clear what you wanted.

 

But, not to make things worse for you, if your MIL really wants to throw you a small shower and is putting up a stink, maybe just let her...it will probably be only for a couple of hours right?? And then she'll be off your back....

Don't get me wrong though, I am not an advocate for sacrificing what you want for the sake of others but sometimes you just gotta pick your battles....

Hope this helps??

[Sparkles8300]

I would just tell them what YOU want. It's YOUR shower and if you want your shower to be both friends and family with games and all then that is what you should get! It makes me so mad when other people put in their 2 cents when it's your shower! They can decide what they want for their own showers. The shower is suppose to be about the bride and if you only want to have one then that is what you should get Good luck babe.

[Joss]

Maybe you can have the best of both worlds Keira. If your MIL / bridesmaid / FSIL are set on a small bridal shower, you can consider having it as a brunch / supper so it's not super time consuming. This way, they still get to host something for you, and you can have the silly games / fun shower with people who will enjoy it and not be a complete buzzkill.

 

If having the one party with everyone there is important, you can always have the early part with everyone, and then the fun stuff after, so those who don't want to partake can bow out.

 

Totally agreed with autjo - people do get silly with this stuff, and inadvertantly create a stress on you when they shouldn't.

[emme]

I absolutely agree that you should do what YOU want to do...it's YOUR day...well one of them anyways

 

In my group of friends...I am the planner...so of course it's no surprise that when my BM's and I started talking about the bridal shower / stagette...I told them exactly what I envisioned. It's nothing fancy or extreme. Just a good time with the friends and family that I adore...playing some cheesy games (when else do you get to do that?!?!)...and having some food and drinks. I can't wait!!

 

Don't be afraid to tell them what you want to do...because everybody will have a good time as long as you are having a good time!! That's what friendship is all about

[~Keira~]

Thanks for all the advice ladies.

 

I had my cousin over today to talk about what they're all planning. Turns out I was panicking for nothing. She went over to my FSIL's place yesterday and met with my FMIL and my bridesmaid to sort things out. It took some time but they have agreed to throw only 1 party!! I'm so excited to find out about that. The rest of the details are being held under wraps but I have said what I would like so fingers crossed it all turns out.