Who's name should go first?

[*Meagan*]

Etiquette is bride first.

[echo2_62]

I've read that before the wedding, brides name goes first but then after the wedding the grooms name goes first (so thank you notes, return labels etc). I think most of our friends refer to FI and I using his name first already though just out of habit.

[jamk32179]

I have been looking all over the forum for this! Thanks!!

[BachataBride]

I think on our invites & STDs it was bride then groom...but when I sign anything from us now (cards, TY cards, etc) it depends on who it's going to - if it's his family, his name goes first...if it's my family, then my name goes first. If it's mutual friends then I think I usually put mine first!

 

So, in short, I say do whatever looks & sounds best. That's the great thing with DW...you can through tradition & etiquette (some anyway!) out the window!! lol

[hat0112]

This is good to know! I am just starting to look at invites and I was wondering about that!

 

Thanks!

[barcelo1162010]

Think it's proper to do the bride first. But I also think you can do whatever you want, so if you like the way it sounds with his first; go for it.

[*Lo*]

I read that it depends on the letters in your names. I think this was in martha stewart weddings a few issues back....

 

If one of the names ends in a consonant, you put that first and if one name ends in a vowel you put that second.

 

Ie) Bill & Sara

 

Or in my case it's Oliver & Lori

 

If both end in vowels or consonants then it's customary to put the bride first.

 

We did Oliver & Lori because it sounds better and looks better but it might be due to the vowel thing in terms of why it sounds better. I think when you have a vowel and the and right next to it, it's harder to say.

 

Sorry long explanation I just researched this a TON because I was worried people would think we were doing something crazy to put his name first.

 

These days, anything goes though. I wouldn't worry about it!

[*Heather*]

I went by the vowel/consonant thing also. My husband's name ends with an "eee" sound so I didn't think it sounded as good against the "and" as mine, which ends in an "er" (obviously). If his sounded better I would have put his first.