Who knew it would be this stressful?

[alkoch]

Ok so I don't want to go into the dirty details (I will write FOREVER!) but basically right after we got engaged my FMIL started hating me for no reason and being really negative with anything about the wedding. Then recently we started having troubles with my FBIL, he is upset he isn't getting married first (he is 7 years older than my FI) he has been a real jerk lately about everything - he got in a fight with my FI about having to pay to go to Mexico and then didn't call me for my birthday because he was mad at my FI (what??), and my FI's other brother complained about being in the wedding - so we have been going through a lot (and that's not even starting about my Grandma crying every time I try to talk about the wedding because she is so upset).

 

So tonight my FI's oldest brother texted me asking if his friend could use our discount because he just happens to be going to Puerto Vallarta "around" the same time. I start trying to help him get the best deal giving tips and everything and then I find out that he is actually planning on having his friend (who is a jerk and a sleaze bag -he grosses me & my FI out) stay at the hotel the week of the wedding and just not come to the ceremony or the reception.

 

WHATTT

 

So he basically just invited his weird friend to our wedding without even asking and trying to trick us into giving him a discount on airfare!!! I don't even know what to do - I know I could be nice and let they guy come but I really don't like him ( I was even uncomfortable having him stay at our lake house for a WEEKEND - much less being in a foreign country for a week with him)

 

Ahh I just don't understand - why is this sooo hard, everything we have tried to do has had some problem because other people are NUTS!!

 

Thanks for letting me vent - I have a feeling I will be adding to this thread A LOT during the next year

[Vikki]

Screw that. It's not rude to let people know that THIS IS YOUR WEDDING-not some discount travel opportunity. If he wants reduced travel tell him to get some frequent flyer miles.

 

As for the rest of it just do your best to ignore the negativity. You're the one getting married and if they can't or don't want to be there it will be better in the long run if they aren't.

[DreamComeTrue]

It's not you...it's them! How could your FBIL think its ok to invite someone to your wedding on the sly? Even if he doesn't come tot he wedding he's still going to be with your party. Thats just rude and inconsiderate. Maybe you could tell him how you feel and suggest he invite someone else.

[KristieF]

I swear the stories I read in this forum never cease to amaze me. Who do people think they are? It's your WEDDING and I guess to some people that doesn't hold a lot of meaning, it's still all about them all the time. I'm sorry you have to deal with this! You are definitely not in the wrong in any way, but I would not be helping your FI's brother or friend anyway or anyhow! Maybe your FI should speak to his brother about the friend and explain you would rather he not be there?

[alkoch]

Thanks guys I just can't believe that we are having these issues Thanks for the support!

[Kristin_And_Stewart]

Wow, that's ridiculous!! I can't believe your FBIL would do that! I would for sure say NO WAY. And don't even feel bad about it! this day is all about you and your FI.

 

Good luck, everything will be okay!

[LadyTrunck]

I agree a million % with everything that Christie said. I cannot believe the nerve some of these people have!! You have every right to be frustrated, this is YOUR (and FI) day!!! Good luck girl!