How many bm is too many?

[Kristy!]

I was 1 of 10 BMs in my best friend's wedding last weekend. Honestly, we all got along fine, but there were always so many of us around that I feel like I really missed out on really being involved. I realized the next day that I never even got to dance with her or get a picture of the two of us (other than the one formal shot). She had a big at home wedding, not a DW, so that makes a difference, but just coming from another angle.

[jenninjamaica]

I love this forum. It always makes me feel better about everything!!!

[kpuckrin]

This day it's all about you- so let it be about what's right for you.

 

I decided to only have one BM- my one and only sister but that's because we wanted a very small and intimate wedding.

[Christy335]

I was in a wedding where the BMs (& GM) walked down the aisle, waited for the bride to come down the aisle, then we all took our seats in a reserved row in the front of the church. Granted, this was a Catholic wedding, so we had to stand, sit, kneel, stand again, kneel again, etc. so we needed to sit.

 

But if you feel like it would be too many people standing at the alter with you, you could have them walk down the aisle and be showcased as the bridesmaids, in a place of honor, but then have them sit for the ceremony. It's YOUR wedding... you can do whatever feels right to you.

 

BTW - I'm having 5 BMs and my FI is having 10 GM. We're expecting approx 60 - 80 people at our wedding.

[*Nadine*]

Yep I agree with everyone else. We are each having 7 and its been awesome. All of our attendants live outside of where we live though so I did dress shopping with family instead and we just chose and bought their outfits (dresses from jcrew and outfits from banana) and had them shipped to them.

 

Its your day

[lmuze]

Phew! Glad to know I am not the only one with this dilema. Initially I followed other people opinions and I was planning to have my wedding here in Maryland but my heart wasn't into it so I scratched that idea and went with the DW.

 

I had already asked 7 BMs, now I can't ask them to drop out, all are excited to come with us to Jamaica and take part in our wedding. I have 7 BM, 2 Jr BM and 1 FG. Luckily the dresses we chose before will work just fine in Jamaica, we just changed colors.

[Amarillis]

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Originally Posted by ashey063009 It's your wedding. You decide. What may be too many to one bride may be too little to another. The only one that really knows is you!

Ashley hit the nail on the head! I was a 2BM bride, and initially thought I'd only have my sister.

i was thrilled to stand with my BFF and my sister, the one aspect to take into consideration is the relationship that all your BM's have with each other, as they will be coordinating events prior to your wedding... and you wouldn't want the