Question for anyone doing the legal part at home

[jandl2013]

Wow, my fh and I have been going back and forth with this issue too.  We were going to do the legal ceremony December 31, which is our anniversary, but we had trouble coordinating our parents since they don't live in the same area as us.  We have ultimately decided to just go ahead and get married a few weeks before we leave.  If the parents make it, then great but if not, they will be at the Punta Cana ceremony.

 

I view the Punta Cana ceremony as the "real" wedding in my opinion so I was wondering about that ring exchange thing too!  I kind of figured that we would not exchange rings until Punta Cana and that's that.   In regards to the legal ceremony, I know me, and I know him, so I know we will have to wear something nice to at least make everything look decent.  I'm sure we'll take a few pictures that day and also just go to dinner and that's that.  I think it's going to depend on our parents to be honest.  We aren't trying to make too much of a big deal out of the legal ceremony and I wanted to keep it secret, but with our family that just isn't going to happen so I gave up on that idea.

[to-be-mrs-k]

We plan to celebrate our anniversary on the day of the ceremony in Jamaica.

[jandl2013]

I think we'll celebrate our anniversary on one date then maybe plan our yearly vacations (if we're able to) on the other date.

[NJBride2014]

My fiance and I have talked about doing a small church ceremony.  It would be at the church that he was baptized in and that I frequented as a child.  Both his parents and my parents would be happy that we at least got married in the church since the rest of the wedding is non-traditional.  Not sure yet what we will do.  If we do it in the church only our parents and sibliings will be in attendance so that it doesn't take away from the ceremony in Cancun for our other guests.  Really need to start looking into this otherewise I guess we will do it at the courthouse.

[NJBride2014]

Oh and our anniversary would still be the cancun one.  But if my fiance wanted to celebrate both the church and destination one that's cool with me too. lol

[jandl2013]

My fiancé wants to do a church wedding and he absolutely refuses to do the courthouse thing, but i know if we do that, it will cause unnecessary drama because I'm not trying to invite a bunch of ppl to turn around and then have to pay to feed/entertain them when we'll be doing that in the DR shortly after. My cousin informed me that there is a nice gazebo by the courthouse so we're thinking about using that with our minister. I really only want our parents there to make it simple and private.

[jandl2013]

But I'm open to two anniversaries also...it could be fun to do that

[Spoiledtator]

Haha, good one- of course us ladies would love two anniversaries

[tmcdonald]

We hope to go to the courthouse just a few days before we leave.  Something very simple and short with just the two of us.  

[NJBride2014]

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Originally Posted by tmcdonald 

We hope to go to the courthouse just a few days before we leave.  Something very simple and short with just the two of us.  

 

That was my plan now the fiance wants to do the whole church thing. I wanted to keep it simple now I have another thing on my to do list.