Advice on guests and events

[~Debra~]

Our guests arrived over 3 days and since it was only 30 of us, we invited everyone to the rehearsa/welcome dinner & we had one excursion, a catamaran cruise and the majority of our guests went. The rest of the time was theirs to do what they wanted. I didn't want to plan an event per day because our guests were on vaca as well as being there for our wedding and who wants all their time planned out for them? It worked out great for us.

[azulskies]

Thanks ladies! I guess I'm concerned as etiquette goes...are we responsible for paying for a welcome dinner? I just don't know if it'll be in our budget...

[s_katrese]

I only have two plans set out depending on how many guests we have coming.

Plan A- If we have a small number 20 or less I'm planning to have a rehearsal/ welcome dinner.

Plan B- If we have a larger group over 20 I will have a get together for drinks/appetizers (pass out OOT bags and introduce everyone) very simple.

[purrfected]

We are having a welcome BBQ on the beach on the friday before our wedding. The wedding is Saturday and anyone who wants to go can go horseback riding with us on Sunday afternoon. I put t-shirts in everyone's bag that say "The Robinson Wedding Jamaica 2009" and will advise them to wear them on Sunday for a group pic. I am not planning any other group events or tours. I am going to leave that up to each individual.

[sperger]

Typically, the rehearsal dinner is paid for by the groom's family - in our case, we are doing a dinner cruise the day before the wedding, and they are graciously footing the bill for that.

[Destination Scout]

What type of venue do you have? Are you renting a house or something private where you could have a backyard BBQ?

With excursions, I scheduled out things we were doing and invited everyone to come with us. There's a ton of things you could do in Maui. Snorkeling, hike up to the live volcano, hiking.

[Jo 2010]

We are going over this October (wedding isn't until next October) to plan a list of activities.

 

We are going to provide guests with an itinerary of what we are doing to whole time, and they are free to join in or skip whatever.

 

So far all the options are below (we have a busy trip planned this year!!) and we will narrow it down after we try them all

 

A sailing cruise around the north islands

Welcome Barbeque

A Shark dive

Cocktail Afternoon before the wedding (early night)

Shopping trip

Volcano Hike

Wedding recovery session/Pool party

Jetski safari to southern islands

Golf Day

 

We have asked our guests to come on holiday with us, so we want to be available to them - however they are on their own holiday too so have the freedom to do whatever they like.

 

Most people are planning to arrive 3-4 days before and staying 4-5 days after so we have a while to play with...

 

Once we get it all finalised I will be begging for creative wedding themed titles for all the activities

[~Debra~]

Krystall, from an etiquette standpoint, you are supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner. Maybe you can do something that would be a little cheaper than a full dinner. One girl said they did just appetizers and drinks. I don't know if this would be an option for you cut back on costs...

 

Good luck with whatever you decide!

[s_katrese]

I know that if you were having a traditional wedding (which your not because its a DW) the grooms parents are suppose to pay for the rehearsal dinner with your parents footing the wedding (ceremony and reception). I am no help with DW etiquette...sorry.