Long Distance Relationships and Moving

[The Mandy in Chandy]

Thank you so much, NaM! Looks like things are heading in the way of me moving to be with him. I found out my house will never really be my house, I only get to stay there rent-free til I die. Which means I can never really make it mine.

 

It breaks my heart to leave, but I really don't have many friends here at all and I am not that close to my family. It is super-scary though!

[Brenda&Jeff09]

This is a tough situation... I would agree with the pros/cons list as a place to start. My fiance and I had to go through this too, because we met through mutual friends in different states. It ended up that he quit his job, sold his house, and moved hundreds of miles to live with me and start a new job, etc.... but he hates it. He constantly says he'd rather be here with me and have to work for a company he hates, than to be back in his hometown without me. But ultimately, it tears me apart to see him so unhappy in his job, because his career is everything to him (until he met me... now he says nothing matters other than us being together).

 

So I understand the turmoil you're in.... my fiance has lived here for 8 months now, and we're already talking about other options, and the thought of moving back to his home state has been brought up several times, but he doesn't want to take the chance that I'll hate it there. I don't think there's an easy decision either way you go... but what I keep telling myself is that the most important thing to me is that I'm with him... and we can make it work anywhere. Good luck to you in your decision process.

[Vikki]

Sounds like a good time to make a fresh start. Especially if the main factor holding you was the house and now that has changed. You'll always have your memories but you have a chance to build your own memories with the man of your dreams, future in-laws that you love and even though the economy can be scary don't let it ruin the other things you have going.

 

Good luck!

[NaM]

I agree with Vikki! It sounds like you have been given a great opportunity to start fresh! You're about to embark on this huge new adventure with your love and it's going to be so fun, exciting and rewarding to make such new memories. Don't let anything hold you back from being happy

 

Good luck!!!

[mkpeter]

 

Hello, long distance relationshp is may be a good option.

 

i think so... is better to close relationship.

 

"this is only my opinion"

 

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