Who is attending your legal wedding?

[KLaBate54]

For everyone who will be having their legal ceremony either before or after their DW, who are you planning on being there for it? We're planning our legal day for before our DW, and initially I had assumed that both of our parents would be there; but then after thinking about it, I'm not sure if they should. I want our DW to be our real wedding to EVERYONE. Let me know what you girls think and what your plans are for this day.

[koolatta]

Good Question..I haven't thought about it...I'm confused not too..lol..sorry I'm no help but I am interested in what others have to say

[KLaBate54]

Thanks Megan! I think I'm definitely leaning more toward not having our parents come. All of our close friends will be at the DW, so I'm not sure what we'll do for witnesses. I will have to think about that.

 

Koolatta- I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one confused about this. It will be interesting to hear what everyone else is planning to do!

[DGG]

I agree that it is probably better just to have 2 close friends (who can keep a secret ..) there instead of your parents.

My situation is a little different - but learn from my mistake . We had a "secret" separate ceremony in a church - we wanted to only have our parents so it didn't overshadow our main ceremony on the beach that we had already planned.. once we told our parents, my parents got so worked up that my siblings had to be there - then when we said okay, then it was my aunt/uncle - in the end, we had almost 20 people who "had to be included" - not at all our intention.. so be careful who you chose to invite .

[tylersgirl]

I am planning on having our parents and our grandparents there only because our grandparents will not be attending our dw

[EDSROSA]

My legal day will be before the DW and my parents sisters and brother are coming. My FI is not saying anything to his family b/c they have been giving us a hard time about the DW, so if they find out that we will be married before the DW they might just cancel there trip.

[Jennifer Davis]

My Dad and one other person who I haven't figured out yet.

[big3n09]

We are stuck on who to have as witnesses because we don't want ANYONE to know. I suggested his grandparents since they aren't coming to the DW but they may forget it's a secret, there're like 90, and it may seem strange for us to kidnap them for a day. So we don't know who we can trust on this one.

[Ginalyn]

We invited both sets of parents to our Legal Day. Only DH's parents came though because my parents couldn't make it due to work (they were going to use up all of their vacation for the actual DW), so DH's parents shared pics with mine and that was it.

 

Both sets of parents considered our DW as the "real" wedding...we invited them to legal day because we wanted both sets of parents to share our wedding journey with us.

[KimmyG]

I think it should stay a secret from general guests, but it wouldn't feel right to me if our parents weren't there! I think we'll also include df's grandparents, since they can't travel to the dw. I haven't decided about siblings yet...