Rsvp

[NaM]

Is it ok to put a note in your invitations telling people we will accept their resort booking as their RSVP instead of an actual RSVP card? Maybe add on their to call us with immediate regrets so we can cross them off? I didn't order RSVPs with my invites and I really don't want to spend $$ on postage because everything is international for us but is this rude or tacky? I feel like it'll be easier to keep track of it this way anyway since people don't always send back response cards anyway.

Thoughts or suggestions please! and thank you

[starchild]

I think it is okay but do you know that all of your guests are staying at your resort? Also there are usually last-minute people who book late so you don't want to count them out. You can always have people call/email you with the rsvp so you don't have to get the cards. Good luck

[frazali]

I agree with starchild. Can you be sure that everyone will be staying at your resort? If you do decide to have people call you to rsvp as well, just make sure that you are working with 1 master list and the rsvp gets ticked off as soon as you receive it.

 

Let us know what you decide!

[EDSROSA]

I was worried about people not sending the RSVPs back in time so I wrote all the details (hotel name, TA's info) on the RSVP cards and requested that those interested email or call me. I too had a master list, as people are calling me and emailing me I have been updating the list.

[MsZ]

In case they don;'t book at the same resort, it might be good to get all the cards in. But in case you want to cut corners and save some funds, I have seen a lot of websites where people put their RSVP directly on the website. That way saves time and money, plus it seems like it would be really easy to quickly check! Just another suggestion for you!

[Princess402]

Have you got a wedding website? In that case, perhaps you could ask people to RSVP there and save yourself some $$ on postage.

 

As far as etiquette goes, I think it's okay though to tell people that you'll know they're coming when they've booked their trip! But, like other posters have mentioned, some people may not book until the last minute, so hopefully that wouldn't mess with your planning. Then again, even if you ask people to RSVP, people may end up changing their minds about actually booking anyways.

 

Personally, I'm asking people for a pre-RSVP just so I can get an estimate of how many people are planning to come. But ultimately I think the formal RSVP will be when they actually book their trip, as you've said.

[big3n09]

It should be fine and the other post have provided other options and things to keep in mind if you do decide to do it that way.

[NaM]

thanks ladies! We do have the option on our website so I do think I will just have them do it that way. Getting people to RSVP is such a pain! I understand some people really don't know yet but it makes my life so much harder

[autjo]

Along with our parents, we have been personally talking to all of the people that have mentioned going as well as the ones that we really want there so we can get a pre-RSVP count. We set up the RSVP on our website and I don't see anything wrong with asking for an RSVP there or via email. Just make sure you talk to some of the older generations that may not have a computer.

[crazyldy]

I think it depends on how many you are inviting if it is a lot then I agree with above but it it is a small group you should be ok