Destination Invitation Questions?

[mich999]

It's really up to you. If you invite everyone, just be prepared for some guests that you didn't think would come, to come, and vice versa. You really need to look at your guest list and decide who are maybes and include them in your final numbers to see if that blows your budget, and if it does, that may influence how many people you invite. We ended up sending invites to about 150 hoping for no more than 50-60 (because of cost) and had 44 people attend, which was perfect, but I think we would have had more people in the economy hadn't tanked. We also included our AHR invite with our wedding invite.

[britsytoll]

We sent them out to everyone. We have been shocked by who is coming so it has been fun to see people book. Plus, we are not having an AHR so this is it for us! We are making our invitations so the cost has been minimal.

[autjo]

It is totally up to you. We did an informal poll on the guests we really wanted to come and sent Save the Dates to only those guests so they could start planning for the travel. We are sending the invites this month to everyone on our list and included the DW and AHR on them. We are hoping for 50 at the DW and 100 at the AHR.

[RedCasillas03]

It appears we will send them out to everyone just in case if an aunt or uncle may want to go, you never know. Just the hard decision of now picking a place so we can make the invitations. It is taking forever for some of the resorts to reply. Thanks for all your responses and I hope to get a response shortly.

[jawedding]

invite everyone YOU would like to come.. some won't make it, obviously, but you might be surprised by who does come! (and who doesn't), and it will save you the embarassment of the late invite (when you realize someone you thought wouldn't come WOULD have liked to come, so you send them the invite late.. haha happened to me!)

[shanelle]

we personally decided to send out Save the Dates to everyone. We choose a post card type of save the date w/an RSVP. It wasnt too expensive and even though I mostly knew who would and wouldnt respond, I can say that I put the invite out to EVERYONE. I didnt want anyone to feel left out. I attached a small print out of the resort hotel website for a "sneak peak" and a small map of the island in requards to miami so people knew exactly where it was. (punta cana)

Once I receive all the RSVP's a formal invite will be sent w/travel agent info and a hotel brochure.

Hope you got some good ideas!

[taratoons]

We faced this exact same problem. Neither of us are super close to our extended families, but we knew we couldn't invite one aunt and not the other. So up until the last minute, we were prepared to send the STDs to everyone, and put a blurb on the bottom of the STD to email us if they are 1. very interested in attending, 2. require more information, 3. unable to attend. We assumed most people would say they needed more information, and if they said that or very interested, we'd send them the $7.00 invitation. However, this little blurb would eliminate people who KNOW they cannot come (such as grandparents), and would save us the money at invitation time.

 

However, at the last minute, we decided that this was our day, and since we had hardly talked to several of the people on the "big" list in the last year, and were pretty certain they wouldn't attend anyway (though I agree, be prepared for some people to come who you don't think will!), we decided to just send to our "small" list. These are the people that are closest to us, mostly friends, and immediate family, so we can say it's a more "intimate" gathering.

 

It's a very personal choice. I'm happy with the way we did, because it kind of honours those that have been so close to us, to be invited. Plus, the group we think we're going to get is going to be so much fun, and pretty much already knows each other. :0) I don't think we'll face too much heat from those not invited. Like I said, it's hard to argue when they haven't spoken to us in so long, and it's not like it's an at home wedding, it's going to cost them like $1500 and a week's vacation to go!

 

Good luck with the decision! :0)

[courtney_b00]

I think I am going to send invitations to all family and my closest friends and from there see who can come. We want it to be intimate. But we are also having an AHR for everyone to attend and we will show our wedding video then.

[IMPPEARL]

We also sent them out to everyone, sometimes it just the thought that counts!

[CrystalM]

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Originally Posted by IMPPEARL We also sent them out to everyone, sometimes it just the thought that counts!

This is what I'm having to do.

I'm inviting my whole family but my fiance wasn't inviting anyone. I had to ask him - who is going to be offended that you didn't invited him for him to come up with a list. We're not expecting anyone from his family to make it.


As for invitations, I absolutely loved some of the DIY ones from Joann Fabric. I got mine from Target then saw the Joann ones.