Ugh.... why can't a party member just tell you!

[Jacilynda]

amarillis your right! I am thankful at least they have good reasons!! I wish this were happening months ago instead of weeks before, but I really hope it works out. i'm going to see Joe's older sis tonight and gonna bring it up w/ her and find out whats happening at the moment so i can get an idea of what is up

[YoursTruly]

oh wow! we are hardly judging you--who are we to do that? It sounds like a lot going on but in the end it will work itself out. Things always do---just try not to stress too much more over it okay. Keep us posted on your FSIL.

[KarenM]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this & that it's happening so close to your wedding. It's really disappointing so although you seem to be handling it amazingly well & are not stressed about it, it's more than understandable that this would make both you & Joe sad (& his sisters!).

I think it's a good idea to bring it up to his sister, hopefully she'll be able to talk about it with you openly. I'm guessing she wanted to just be ready w/ her passport & tickets and thought she'd probably be able to make it. She must be so disappointed too.

 

Are you having a reception when you get back? If you aren't, could you have a bbq or something that those close to you who couldn't make it to Mexico could come to?

[~Debra~]

I'm sorry to hear your girls may not be able to make it. I hope it all works out for you. Look on the bright side, at least you will know before you leave. I had to find out my MOH wasn't coming after I was already in Jamaica.

[Jacilynda]

OMG Debra!!!! I honestly can't tell you how pissed I would have been! Unless of course there was nothing they could do about it!

 

Ok so UPDATE!!!

 

So that night we drove up to our lakehouse. Joe's older sister is living there right now for a few months. We got there before she got off work. But, as soon as she walked in the door she immediately said "Jackie, I have to talk to you"

 

So the situation w/ her is she was charged in Montana but lives in ID so she has to have permission from both states to leave. Her PO was sure it would be fine because his recommendation was to let you go. Well, ID said yes, and MT said no. This had only happened 3 days before, their mom was the one who told me and she made it sound like it happened weeks ago and she was hiding it from me. She said she hadn't called yet cause she wanted to find out what her options were. Understandable. So she called up her lawyer and he put in a motion for her to be able to leave the country and she paid $500 to have it expedited. Her lawyer told her not to expect the judge to approve it, and he can't guarantee he'll even have an answer in time for her to go. So we're not counting on her and her FI coming, but we're hoping!

 

Then Joe's younger sister....... his mom told me she wasn't approved for leave to come so she might not be coming. Well I talked to her the other night and she has leave approved, but after the drug wars in MX we all know about the ban on soldiers traveling to MX on leave. So she has to fill out lots of paperwork and do some classes. So the other day she said she spent 7 hours filling out paperwork, and she took her safety class the other day, her paperwork is on the Colonel's desk (which funny story, the Colonel has the exact same name as her and Joe's dad!) but she's just waiting for him to sign it, or not sign it.

 

keeping my fingers crossed but we'll see!

 

My sister (MOH) put in the wrong days off for school! I bought her ticket cause she's broke and she was traveling w/ us on 4th but we changed our flights to the 1st cause the flights were better after on the cuts on MX flights. She wants to go on the 6th when everyone else is going. So she took time off for the 6th - 11th. But to change her ticket is $514.87. I'm not paying for that, my mom can't pay it, she certainly can't pay it. So she is trying to change her schedule, but she had a dr appt on the 5th (the day before she thought she would leave) for tests to see if her dr will even let her go (she'll be 7 months pregnant). So she has to see if she can reschedule that.

 

Oh well, if everyone comes then YAY!! If not more cake for me!

[weddingchick]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you! Though eating more cake doesn't sound sooooo bad!

[Shinbinea]

At least now things are all out on the table and no-one is keeping anything from you. I hope everything works out for you

 

When we first started planning and I was stressing over stuff one of my co-workers (kind of like a second mom) took me to the side and said only 3 matters about your wedding...

1. your marrying the man you love

2. you have the perfect dress

3. your pictures will be amazing

now just let the rest of it go...

 

I don't know if it helps you at all but its my personal mantra whenever wedding stuff starts to stress me out.

[KLC77]

Oh Jac, this stinks. I would be so stressed even though there's nothing you can do about any of the situations. It just sucks to have to wait til the last minute to get answers. I hope they can all make it!