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[emme]

Very impressive response from the SIL's husband...so obviously she'll give in if EVERYone else goes!! She sounds like the type that wouldn't want to miss out...lol...

[Donie Jordan]

Glad you decided to go through with it. We are actually planning our entire wedding before we tell anyone, to avoid this exact problem. FH and I know what we want, and although it may seem selfish I really don't want anyone's opinion weighing down our decisions. We're doing our site visit in October - telling everyone it's just a vacation in cabo and then having a big party when we get back to announce it all. That way everything is booked just as WE want it to be. If anyone is against that, they just won't be joining us in cabo...I think what is most important is that you have the wedding of YOUR dreams!

[zethers]

Sounds like you have a great FI who supports YOU! and at the end of the day it's all about the two of you. Have fun with all the planning and don't forget whats really imporant, you and your FI!!

[hockeymom97]

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Originally Posted by Donie Jordan Glad you decided to go through with it. We are actually planning our entire wedding before we tell anyone, to avoid this exact problem. FH and I know what we want, and although it may seem selfish I really don't want anyone's opinion weighing down our decisions. We're doing our site visit in October - telling everyone it's just a vacation in cabo and then having a big party when we get back to announce it all. That way everything is booked just as WE want it to be. If anyone is against that, they just won't be joining us in cabo...I think what is most important is that you have the wedding of YOUR dreams!

This sounds like a perfect way to do it!! It took me almost a year to actually book our resort because everyone kept putting their .02 in and I was worried about making everyone else happy. "The flight is too long...not everyone has a passport...the kids are in school and we can't take vacation then....it's too expensive...there aren't any non-stop flights available...that resort doesn't have enough to do for the kids" ....and on and on it goes. So finally I realized that I wasn't going to be able to make everyone happy and there were going to have to be some compromises made. I was flexible and made some compromises, but I also expect my family to make compromises as well. This is our wedding - NOT theirs. I did the best I could to find a resort that I liked, but also considered the needs of our guests as well. And hopefully that's enough to keep the peace in our families.