Help, ceremony "script" quest. Only 5 more days!

futurerana · June 10, 2009

I really need help. I leave in 5 Days! I am working on my own vows. I saw other bride's ceremony script postings and they were great. The WC at my resort hasn't sent an example to me,

even though I asked. Are these scripts posted ones that you brides wrote completely yourselves or did you just add a reading/sand ceremony here and there to what the officiant sent. If you did write it completely yourself was the officiant receptive to that. I made my own (15 minutes long when I timed it) and my fiance said "OMG. You are gonna make that old man read all that?", he has a point. I was practically out of breath, but then again speaking is what they do...

So I was wondering if I should just add a sand or hand ceremony and just the actual vows? It is just frustrating when I have no idea what the wording will be like. Brides who posted their scripts, could you let me know how it works, like were the scripts you all posted what was said or what you wrote and will be said. It is just us two so I don't have anyone else to read the blessings/readings that I chose. Please give me insight. Thanks.

BillysBride · June 10, 2009

Hmm..no chance of getting in an email/convo with your WC before you leave?

Fifteen minutes (in my book) isn't really that long. BUT, if you are worried about it, I'd simply write it up with all the elements you want, then adjust if necessary once you get on site and are able to discuss it in detail with the WC.

I'm sure some of the post-wedding gals will chime in. In the meantime, don't worry (easier said than done, I know:). Even with 5 days, you've got time and can get it figured out.

futurerana · June 10, 2009

Aaaw thanks Billysbride! I think that is what I will do. She did send me the order of it but no wording of the actual vows, she said he uses traditional vows. And the more I think about it I sort of do want to say the "for better for worse etc", you know you just hear it on movies etc and it would be cool to say it for real. Though who knows what traditional vows she means.

I think that I am out of luck getting the wording beforehand at all. It will be a Jamaican minister so I am hoping/thinking he will have some beautiful spiritual words so I may just use the vows that the he uses. I just don't want to miss out on anything spontaneous, wise or beautiful etc that the minister might say in his awesome Jamaican accent by making him read what I get of the net ( I can't think of anything personal). Although there are some awesome things I found. Though I think I will add a sand and or hand ceremony for sure. I tried to write my own personal vows but it just sounded so cheesy (I can't seem to express it on paper) and I figure I can just tell him those thoughts sometime during our honeymoon in private. Thank you sooo much for you encouragement and your kids are beautiful.

MissyR · June 10, 2009

We did a legal ceremony so the majority of our was what was required by mexican law. In terms of "personal add ons" -we did write our own vows and sand ceremony and given them to our judge.

We asked and asked for a "script" as well but were told it differs somewhat depnding on which officiant you get.. If you wanted my script I could post it here!