STD date question

[bobbysgirl]

My mom doesnt think anyone will want to come to my wedding. I am trying to include her in the planning process... So today it came to the STD she firmly believes no one will come to my wedding and i should not invite people or tell people to STD for my wedding when they most likely will only attend the AHR anyway... FMIL also kinda seems to feel the same way how do I respond to this??

[Sandra&Mario]

oh my god!!!!! How the heck do they know no one will come to your wedding?!?!?! First off, your wedding isn't next week!!! Your wedding is over a year away!!!! Secondly, sending our STD's allows those that want to go to save money and prepare well ahead of time! Lastly, those who are closest to you WILL GO!! Your family, your best friends...they will do whatever they need to in order to join you both on your special day! And that is what STD's are for! So, your mom and FMIL need to RELAX and be SUPPORTIVE of what you and your FI want. Ultimately, it's your day and you should do what you want! We sent our STD's out in March and our wedding is in January (10 months before). Our family and friends are so excited about it! We know there are some that won't be going, but that's ok. We completely understand. Had we not sent them to those however, we'd forever hear "well, we didn't even get invited!!". So, invite away! Send your STD's! Well...invite those you want to invite and those you want to be there! Good luck and happy planning! Tell your mom and FMIL to butt out, haha

[Sita&Nate]

Just remember --it is YOUR day! You should have the freedom to do as you please I think

[bobbysgirl]

See that's exactly how I feel! Thank god I thought I was going crazy and maybe the mom's were right... I swear she really thinks it's just going to be us and my parents and his parents and that's it... not only is our wedding OVER a year away, we have a really cool travel agent that is setting up a payment plan and 4 night 6 night and 7 night packages to accomodate everyone.

[mswhatever]

Everyone will want to come! She is crazy. Yes there will be people that will not be able to afford it. If you give then enough notice with the STDs (LOL), it makes the expense easier to handle. Don't worry. Just give them notice and see.

[BeachBride10]

I'm sorry your Mom has an attitude like that about your big day. I didn't think very many people would want to come to our wedding either because of expenses, but it turns out that over 40 people would like to go, so don't listen to her and get those STDs out and have fun planning.

[Debbi803]

I agree...sounds like Mom and MIL are old school and don't realize that destination weddings are very popular in this day and age. Is part of the problem that THEY don't really want to go? Those who want to be part of your special day will be there if it's really important to them. Get the STD's out so that people can start planning!

[Jen_S]

I think you should send the STDs out to anyone you would like to be at your big day I think you will be surprised who comes to your wedding I know I was. Once your wedding happens your Mom and MIL will think you made the best decision every your guests will love and talk about it all the time. Good Luck!

[jk1101]

I think sometimes when we try to do something different...like a DW...it makes the "old school" people nervous. I know my mom is surprised when I tell her how many people have said they will come. Your Mom and FMIL may have this picture in their head of what they think your wedding should look like, which is probably very different of what you are picturing it to be...and as everyone else is saying, it's your day.

 

You won't know that they won't want to come if you don't invite them....or at least send the STDs to get an idea. Your Mom and FMIL will probably be very surprised. People always want to go to a wedding!

[itsfinallyhere]

Hi, I am sorry that things are not more exciting for you. How horrible to have to deal with kind of thing. But they are wrong, of course no body would go if not told about it. You tellthem and they will come! Ok not everyone but thats ok. People need to know and if they know about it early enough then they can plan for it. You go right ahead and send out he STD. I didn't and I am real sorry. Do as much as you can, enjoy as much as you can. Making all this stuff is half the fun!