How to involve the groom's father

Inked1 · May 17, 2009

So I am looking for advice/suggestions on how to honor/involve my Fi's dad in the ceremony. His parents divorced about a year ago and though it wasn't a super messy divorce they really don't talk much as both their sons are grown. We are having a short and sweet Vegas chapel ceremony w/ a unity candle. Our moms are going to light the candles, my dad will walk me down the aisle...

So how do we honor his dad so he doesn't feel like the odd one out who did not participate in the ceremony? I am pretty sure the creative collective here on BDW will have some advice!

jennie · May 21, 2009

Just a suggestion, but maybe you could do something like a sand ceremony and have all of the parents pour some of the sand for the "foundation" of the vase/shadowbox frame and the you and you FI pour your individual sand to make everyone feel a part of it?

We are doing something like this: i'm having my 8 year old pour the foundation sand from the beach in Jamaica and then we will each pour our sand to make not feel left out.

Before the cutting of our cake we are going to light the unity candle( FI wants one too).

It's Las Vagas, but i'm sure it would look quite fine to do it at any location.

Hope this helps.Congrats and good luck!

Ginalyn · May 21, 2009

Do you have a ring bearer? I know traditionally ring bearers are young, but your FI's father can hold on to the rings and hand them to the officiant. This is how my FI and I are going to involve my older brother.