I have had a rough couple of days!!!!

litl_april · May 1, 2009

I agree with what the rest of the girls are saying, in that you do need to decide which you want more. A very low-key wedding now, or a nicer one later. Keep in mind, you do have some time to figure it out and price a lot of stuff out. If you don't plan to invite a lot of people, really you can have an inexpensive wedding just about anywhere. A couple FI and I know got married in Maui about a year ago with just them and immediate family for under $2000. So it can be done! Sapphire's also right about the house, you need to find out if you can even get the loan right now before really making any decisions. It is a great time to buy, but you also need to have the money to buy so you aren't hurting in the long run.

And hey, if you need some assistance in DIY projects give me a shout, as I'm sure most on BDW will tell you!

Finally...I know from experience how difficult the long engagement can be. We will be nearly 3 years when we exchange vows. It was painful at times, watching newly engaged friends get married long before me, but we did it! And we get a tropical wedding unlike them! HA! Hang in there...price everything out, and most importantly, take a deep breath! *HUGS*

Sapphire723 · May 1, 2009

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Originally Posted by GracieBebe

OMG, was that on the show Say Yes to the Dress? If so, I saw that same episode. She has the dress custom made and her father was paying for it and she didn't even like it when it came it that she switched it to another dress that was even more expensive and she still didn't like everything on it so she has things changed on it!

Yes, it was! What a spoiled girl.

itsfinallyhere · May 1, 2009

Hi you poor thing to have to deal with this stuff now totally sucks. I can really empathize with you. I know what you are going thru and maybe even where you headed. I too had an inferring ex-wife. She really was a spawn of the devil. OOOOOOOh the stories I could tell! But that is another forum! HAHAHA

My advise to you is this......... still down with your FI and have a serious talk about his ex-wife and the wedding. When discussing his ex you guys need to find a way to tell her that although you would never deny the child anything, you would like to be consulted before any extra expenses are incurred. I would check with your insurance company they probably would cover your portion of the expenses. But you also need to express that next time you what to be advised before hand and also to be included in any decision making. I am not sure but I do not think you are liable for extra expenses after the child support unless specified by a court order. But again who would deny a child something he really needed. But I say this because we went thru my FI's child getting extra dental (cosmetic type stuff done, completely unnecessary) and billing us. When we questioned the dentist he told us that his ex asked for it. Since our benefits did not cover it and it was not medically required we did not have to pay. She tried pulling this in many different ways.

As far as the wedding goes if you want to do it sooner rather than later then I suggest you dig your heels in! I say this because there was always some money excuse that always came up. So I ended up waiting almost 22 years!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't make that mistake. But what I do suggest to you is to reconsider other things. Maybe change the location or star rating. Remember Mexico has a lot of issues right now. And there are a number of other location you could look at that are just beautiful and maybe more cost efficient. You still have time. Talk to a TA and ask them about the most cost efficient place and the requirements. Go into a travel agency and pick-up all the book and look thru them for your prospective dates. A lot of resorts do wedding but are not in a special wedding booklet. You may be surprised. It will also give you and idea about the cost for the trip.

Good Luck I hope everything works out for you

sjfreimark · May 1, 2009

Itsfinallyhere- thank you so much for the advice. It's nice to know someone can relate to me about baby mama drama!!! I wish my FI would call the medical people to talk with them about the bill but he won't. He will think it will be a waste of time and he would rather just pay for it!!!! SEE WHY I AM PULLING MY HAIR OUT!!! It is stated in the divorce degree that he has to pay 50% of medical bills. Not to mention my FI pays for his sons medical insurance. It's just crazy!!! I don't quite understand how we could call and let them know we will not have money to cover the out of pocket costs. Will they just say Ok don't worry about it or what happens? I have never heard of doing that before.

Get back to me when you can!!!

Thanks girls!

jasmine0505 · July 30, 2013

omg i'm going thru the same thing! i hate the fact that i have to deal with another woman the rest of my life especially since she is still in love with my FI. Def need to have a thread!