Cancelled Wedding???

[blushingbride]

Only you know what is best for you. Every one on here is just giving their opinion, but we are not all in your situation...we are looking at it from the outside, so we can be a little more objective. In the end, it is your life and ultimately we decide our own fate. Just know that whatever path you choose, no one will judge you for it; we are all here to lend an ear and a hug if you need it. Keep us posted.

[McToasty]

hey babe, i just wanted to share a quotation that i absolutely love, and encapsulates what i want, and am so glad i found, in a relationship.

 

a few years ago i stayed in this crappy relationship for much longer than i should have. he made me feel like i could never match up to the girls around him, that i didn't treat him well enough, and just.. not good! in the end, i realized that it doesn't matter how much i cared about him. i needed a relationship that wasn't just based on a one-sided love, but one that was reciprocated and based on trust, communication and all that good stuff. one of my friends is actually dating someone who said the exact same thing your FI said to you. he said he was embarrassed to bring her out, that's why she only met his friends for the first time recently after 4 1/2 years of dating.

 

as many other girls have said, only you know what's best for you. but we're here if ever you need.

 

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'â€

[sweettea]

Very well said Mctoasty!

[luckygirl]

McToasty - That was awesome. I totally agree with everything you have just said

[Christinamaria22]

MARIESAM.... She got it right!

 

Stay strong!

[latricej919]

You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers, and I am sure you may not want to hear or believe this, but if he is treating you like this now, he will continue to treat you like this, it will not 'get better' when you get married. Please, please, please love yourself more than you love him and take care of yourself. You need someone who will build you up, not break you down. You know, everything happens for a reason, and having kids involved makes things even more complicated, but having been in a bad situation before I can tell you that you can be a great woman/mother with or without him. Not sure how you all feel about counseling but have you considered it? The other thing you have to think about is that you cannot make a relationship/marriage work by yourself, it takes two dedicated, determined people who are striving for the same goals. You deserve to be treated nicely, especially as the mother of his children. Please just take care of yourself and love yourself......take your time and don't think just because you have a wedding planned you HAVE to go through with it. Listen to yourself, this is not something to take lightly......I hope everything turns out best for you and your children. Take care.

[mrsm109]

Quote:

Originally Posted by McToasty hey babe, i just wanted to share a quotation that i absolutely love, and encapsulates what i want, and am so glad i found, in a relationship. a few years ago i stayed in this crappy relationship for much longer than i should have. he made me feel like i could never match up to the girls around him, that i didn't treat him well enough, and just.. not good! in the end, i realized that it doesn't matter how much i cared about him. i needed a relationship that wasn't just based on a one-sided love, but one that was reciprocated and based on trust, communication and all that good stuff. one of my friends is actually dating someone who said the exact same thing your FI said to you. he said he was embarrassed to bring her out, that's why she only met his friends for the first time recently after 4 1/2 years of dating. as many other girls have said, only you know what's best for you. but we're here if ever you need. “Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'â€

~~~Thank you~~~

[doblauvelt]

sweet quote mctoasty.

 

mrsm109, i wish u all the best!

[kymish]

i know im bumping an old thread

but i really hope you guys worked through everything and your on the path to ever lasting happiness !!