Am I crazy?/What would you do?

[bumbles]

He should have fun on the wedding day too! You have to *trust* him and that he'll be responsible on one of the most important days of his life. Accidents can occur any where, any time... brides can get burnt by a curling iron or get an allergic reaction to a lotion at the spa, kwim?

[~Stephanie~]

I see your side and totally agree that if I had my way it would be on another day. The biggest reason I would be concerned though is if FI and other bridal party members came back sunburnt and looked terrible in the pictures that I was about to spend thousands of dollars on. It would make me nervous that they wouldn't be back in time too.

 

I don't see a reason why they can't just go another day, say after the wedding! I wouldn't fight about it though, as long as FI understood my concerns and knew he would be in the doghouse if he came back late or looking like a lobster!

[Sammygurlj]

I wouldn't tell FI that he isn't "alowed" to go (I'm not his mother) but I would tell him I don't think it is a good idea. I would let him know why it concerns me and that I would prefer he do something fun at the resort. I wouldn't expect him to just sit around all day doing nothing but waiting for the wedding, I would like him to be on the resort though so he can be found if he is needed for something.

[BillysBride]

I TRULY understand your reasoning....but I'd still support him doing what he wants.

 

My main concern would be them all coming back drunk off their asses. Do you know how many fishing trips the resorts and surrounding areas oversee and conduct on a day to day basis? The chances of anything happening are slim, and even if they weren't..you have to realize that you would worry about his safety no matter what day it was. Is it some how better for him to get hurt AFTER the wedding? Thats rhetorical and I know the answer already, but you see what I'm saying? No time is a good time to worry; so just don't.

 

We as women don't bargain on what we want for our wedding day. We want the full treatment, surrounded by our girls. The entire thing often comes off more about the bride than the groom, and thats not fair. It's not OUR doing (at least not on purpose) but I think we all do sometimes forget that they are guys and grown men shouldn't have to put up with being micro-managed.

 

I'm giving Billy two warnings. "No matter what you do, DO NOT show up to that gazebo drunk off your ass, or you're done." and "No matter what you do, do not show up late." Thats it. the rest of the time I don't want to know what he's doing or care. I gotta trust that he knows how important this day is, how much planning is going into it and that he won't do anything to jeopardize this memory for us. That's it.

[Erika J]

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Originally Posted by BillysBride I'm giving Billy two warnings. "No matter what you do, DO NOT show up to that gazebo drunk off your ass, or you're done." and "No matter what you do, do not show up late." Thats it.

OMG.. I love this!!!

I think you should add one more... 3. DO NOT show up sunburned!

[BillysBride]

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Originally Posted by Erika J OMG.. I love this!!! I think you should add one more... 3. DO NOT show up sunburned!

I have to tell him that for the two days leading up to the wedding! He has a tendancy for overdoing it the first couple days...he never thinks he's gonna burn, then ofcourse boom. It's not something that I have to worry about (tee hee) so I always end up warning him then washing my hands of him and his stupidity. lol Is that a male thing? Is sunscreen some how un-manly?

I just gotta push the sunscreen and he'll be ok. I'll keep the spray on kind and spritz his ass everytime I walk past him.

[TammyWright]

my DH and his GM's went surfing the day of his wedding...they came back sooo stoked and he still talks about the best day of his life...waking up and going surfing with his friends then marrying the girl of his dreams.

 

one of his gm also said it was the best day of HIS life because the durf was so good.

[*JillD*]

my husband and his group went the day after the wedding and when they got back they were all so wiped out from being on a boat all day and 5 out of the 8 of them were so sick, that none of them felt like doing anything the rest of the day. I think my hubby was in bed at 8 pm. They didn't even drink much on the trip.

 

So, I would definitely advise against a trip the day of the wedding.

[tylersgirl]

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Originally Posted by BillysBride I TRULY understand your reasoning....but I'd still support him doing what he wants. My main concern would be them all coming back drunk off their asses. Do you know how many fishing trips the resorts and surrounding areas oversee and conduct on a day to day basis? The chances of anything happening are slim, and even if they weren't..you have to realize that you would worry about his safety no matter what day it was. Is it some how better for him to get hurt AFTER the wedding? Thats rhetorical and I know the answer already, but you see what I'm saying? No time is a good time to worry; so just don't. We as women don't bargain on what we want for our wedding day. We want the full treatment, surrounded by our girls. The entire thing often comes off more about the bride than the groom, and thats not fair. It's not OUR doing (at least not on purpose) but I think we all do sometimes forget that they are guys and grown men shouldn't have to put up with being micro-managed. I'm giving Billy two warnings. "No matter what you do, DO NOT show up to that gazebo drunk off your ass, or you're done." and "No matter what you do, do not show up late." Thats it. the rest of the time I don't want to know what he's doing or care. I gotta trust that he knows how important this day is, how much planning is going into it and that he won't do anything to jeopardize this memory for us. That's it.

Well said! And I agree with warning number 3.. No sunburns, haha

[Yari]

waking up and going surfing with his friends then marrying the girl of his dreams.

 

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Tammy, that is so cute!