It happened to me! Guest ignoring *lack* of "and family" on the invite

[lolkitteh]

Yes, we did not specify "Adult reception and Ceremony" on the invites because we felt that to do so would be rude. We also wrongly assumed that everyone on our guest list was aware of invitation etiquette - that is, if a name isn't called out on the invite, they are not invited. I mean, it's a pretty basic rule that I never thought anyone would misunderstand.

 

At the end of the day, though, it isn't that big of a deal. My only concern is about the ceremony and reception - I've already let the offending guest know that the kids are welcome at all other wedding-related events - just not the ceremony and reception.

 

If I had to do it all again, I still would not specify "adults only" on my invites - IMO, to do so would have been worse than handling the one-of situations like this that occur from mis-understanding invitation etiquette. The only thing I would do differently is put this info on the website upfront. At this point, I don't want to update the website with "adult only", since it might make my friend feel bad (eg, they might get the impression that the website was updated and directed at them)

 

I consider this issue handled. for the moment. :-)