Are Pearls a No, No for mexican weddings?

[northernflasher]

A little help here girls,

 

I've been doing a lot of research about mexican wedding traditions some of which I would like to incorporate into our ceremony. Something that has cropped up is that in Mexico a bride is not suppossed to wear pearls as it is beleived to symbolise future tears and unhappiness in the marriage

 

I had considered using pearls as my big theme. I was going for the whole affinity between pearls and love such as the length of time it takes a pearl to develop, how it begins as a grain of sand and can only be complete if all the elements come together perfectly etc.

 

Im not big on superstition but I dont want to cause offense to the judge or co-ordinator or for all the mexicans I encounter on the day to be aghast at my faux pas!

 

Is this something any of you have heard of? Should I play safe and consider doing away with my pearls theme altogether?

 

Thanks for the help.

[bmiles]

I've never heard of anything like that... I think if the pearls mean that much to you, you should use them.

[Sammygurlj]

I don't think it will offend them, they may feel bad for you because they think you will cry a lot for all the pearls that are there.

 

I think it is really up to you, if you want to use pearls go right ahead. I'm sure they will understand that it is not your tradition. If you want to stay with the mexican tradition then maybe think about incorporating something else. In the end it is your wedding and it should be what you want.

[Ayita]

I've not hear about this and to the contrary, pearls have a long tradition in weddings... they were actuallly used as the engagement "gem" in the past centuries...

 

A few links (some of them are from people who sell pearls, however.... does not mean the content is less accurate as I find them in different languages and they all say the same thing) :

 

In English

 

Pearls and Weddings

 

In French

 

perles - mythes des perles - informations et guide sur les perles - Perles.tv

 

 

The final say is to the bride and groom - as very well said here :

 

Celebration Advisor Wearing Pearls on Wedding Day

[northernflasher]

Thanks for the feedback girls. We brits have a big pearl wearing tradition at weddings, I guess while im trying to incorporate elements of mexican tradition the pearl thing symbolises my own wedding culture and tradition so i'll prob just go with it.

 

Special thanks to Ayita for the links... 25 days to go, how on earth do you find the time!! Hope all goes well.

[Ottawa Bride]

My mom is from Central America... she's not crazy superstitious, however, has always said that it's bad luck for a younger woman to wear pearls... apparently it's okay for more 'mature' women to wear them as long as they've been given them as a gift... no mention of wedding though, so not sure what to tell ya.

[Soon To Be Mrs. Gomez]

I love pearls. I really don't know about the meaning behind pearls but maybe you can ask minister ahead of time about this.

[DarcyJAde]

Speaking of pearls, my aunt sent me some for an engagement gift. Does this mean she is expecting me to wear them at the wedding. I have beautiful diamond earrings that my FI bought me to wear and my dress has rhinestone embellishments where the halter meets. I am just not sure if pearls would "go" with the diamonds. What do you think?

[northernflasher]

Not sure I would mix pearls and diamonds. You should really go with your choice on the day and with what goes with your dress, style etc. Could you wear them for your TTD or return home party? Im sure she'll understand.

[DarcyJAde]

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Originally Posted by northernflasher Not sure I would mix pearls and diamonds. You should really go with your choice on the day and with what goes with your dress, style etc. Could you wear them for your TTD or return home party? Im sure she'll understand.

I was thinking of wearing them at the Rehearsal/ Welcome dinner. I am not sure she is going to make it, hopefully I won't hurt her feelings if I don't wear them at the ceremony.