Bachelorette party etiquette dilemma

J&MWedding · March 31, 2009

I definitely agree with everyone has said, you can totally be casual about it. I think a big hint is if you have known she has been a bridesmaid before. If she hasn't, then maybe she isn't familiar with certain "duties" to the bride, I know I have had a friend in this situation. I'm a bride, a MOH, and a bridesmaid all this year and never been in a wedding at all before this, so I went online and looked up etiquette on what to do etc. (I also agree with you on having only one MOH and best man, I like the idea!)

yamille · March 31, 2009

UPDATE: So I had tea with one of my nearest adn dearest yesterday and we were talkign wedding and I mentioned that I wasn't sure if my sis was "in the know" of what she should be planning. She was like all smiley and "well trust jess and i think she knows.." So i kind of feel a little embarassed but she was able to ask me what I preferred so that was good. Agh! at least it's off my chest.

boscobel · March 31, 2009

Well, that's a relief! Something is in the works for ya!

petunia · March 31, 2009

It's lots of fun reading all the posts on here from different parts of the US and Canada. There are so many different customs and traditions. You're in Queens, and I know in the NY area a bridal shower is usually (but not always) hoped to be a surprise. Bachelorette parties are often planned with the bride's assistance, with a lot of the details kept a secret from her. It's great that you were able to have that conversation with a friend who is in the know.

As far as inviting all the females attending the wedding to the bachelorette...can you imagine going to a club or such with some of your older grandmas, aunties and mother's friends? Just your good friends. I would even think, although I'm not sure about this, that you could invite good friends who aren't attending the wedding. It's merely a last fling with good pals before the friends have to take a back seat to your marriage.