Upset and Confused...

[Candice]

Okay I just need to vent!! My FI and I have been talking wedding stuff etc. Well he wants to go to Mexico walk down the sand say our Ido's and then thats all!! No reception no, "real" wedding stuff nothing. Basicly we would be eloping but infront of several people. There would be no point in getting a wedding dress how can I justify buying a wedding dress and only where it for like a half hour? I'm so upset because this is NOT what I want at all. I want to have the full type wedding, get married on the beach and have a reception/dinner do the first dances etc. He says "why would we go away then" Ahhhhhhhhhh.....to add fire to the fuel my dad is also against the reception b/c he doesn't understand why spend the money

 

Anyways I just need to vent and don't know what to do. I only plan on getting married once and I don't know if I want to give up my dreams of a wedding or not. I don't want to have any regrets!!!

 

Thanks for listening.

Candice xx

[Kat81]

Depending on how many people go with you and where you have your wedding a lot of the receptions are semi included in your wedding package. If you want a wedding and reception than I would make some kind of a compromise. This is your wedding, you don't want to ever regret anything. But maybe he would be more into it if he knew it was all part of the package.

[FoxyBride]

A compromise might be able to just say that'd you just like to "celebrate" with friends and family after the wedding. That it's more of a "party" and less of formal event. All men, even stingy old men are usually down for a party.

[JaimeLynne]

I think Kat had a good idea in getting married somewhere where the reception and all that jazz is already included! Generally you just have to book a certain room category or higher for like 7 nights and you can get a very cheap or sometimes even free wedding!

[MexicoBeachBride2010]

I feel your pain...although my fiance wants a reception after the wedding he has an opinion about everything! I keep telling him he should be the bride and I should be the groom. ) But honestly, some resorts offer free meals for the guests after the wedding. What resort are you staying at? I was going to get married in Mexico and switched to Punta Cana, DR because the resort I want is the Majestic Colonial and offers a meal in one of the restaurants after the wedding for free or you can pay for a more private one. Many brides do that and then go to a bar afterwards to dance and celebrate. I would just stress to you FI that you really want this and you want to be happy when you look back on your day!

[Candice]

Thanks ladies, We are hoping to attend the Grand Sunset Princess or its sister resort Grand Riviera Princess (not many brides on here have been married there or are planning to) Since I most likly might have over the limit of xx amount of people there will be a cost I believe. I don't know if the money is the issue or not b/c my dad has offered to pay for the wedding part. However...FI has no done any work on this wedding at all...he HATES to plan things, so I have been doing everything, talking back and forth with the TA reasearching resorts, ideas for the wedding etc. I have falled in love with a lot of ideas and have invisioned our wedding day.

 

He says that people are coming for a vacation and when in fact some might not have came if we weren't getting married?!? I know 100% his mom would be VERY upset if she didn't get to have a mother son dance! Oh and also they (my mom, dad and FI) we don't need a photographer that people can just take photos and my dads friend he is a really good photographer BUT he is by no means a professional! Ugg...sorry I just think everything is catching up to me...:S

 

Again thanks for everything and I am sure in the long run everything will work out!! Even if I have to work my butt off to make it happen!!

 

P.S.

Mexico Beach Bride 2010 I LOVE your mongram!!

[Jacilynda]

Are your guests just going on vacation or would they be coming for your wedding? Are you doing invites for people to come and RSVP? I think having some kind of reception is a way of thanking your guests for coming and celebrating. Even if its just a cocktail reception w/ apps and drinks.

 

What is the real underlying issue? Is it money, or what? Joe hates ceremonies so we are keeping are ceremony very simple and short. But of course we love a party so we're having a full reception. We aren't booked at a resort so we don't have packages, but budget is a big deal for us and are wedding is only costing us $6000. Thats everything from my dress to food, chairs, music, a photographer, etc.

[Candice]

FI is like my dad...they never want anything or do anything but once they are there they have the TIME OF THIER LIFE!!! So I have no idea whats going on...I think he thinks people will just want to drink and relax not attend a wedding reception while at a resort?!?

[Kat81]

Well, if your Dad is paying and you are planning. I say plan the reception. They won't know the difference lol.

[Jacilynda]

Well I say just plan it. cause if they always love it when they are there, then they will be glad you planned it