Bridesmaid Drama- Need to vent

[Lindslou]

I can totally relate to you guys too.  When we got engaged and decided to do a DW I knew who my MOH would be and she is coming without a doubt and has been absolutely wonderful.  I had a couple of close friends that I wanted to ask to be BM but they didn't even consider coming to our wedding.  One told me that DW are something that people with $$$ go to and she wouldn't be able to come to my wedding if it was 2 , 3 or 5 years from when we got engaged.  We let all of our guests know over a year in advance so everyone could save for it. It felt like a slap in the face.  We are getting married next month and for the past 4 months all she can talk about is how excited she is to go to Mexico for a wedding in May.  Oblivious to my wedding, rrrrgggg!!! 

[Tiffanya21]

OMG Lindslou. It seems like she wasn't a real true friend. I can't believe that. I would be so hurt!

 

See my MOH hasn't been involved at all. Actually, I can't tell you the last time I actually saw her....BUT, my only other BM is also my bff, and she is awesome. Shes been there every step of the way. I am so glad I have her to turn to. I was going to make her my MOH but the girl I chose, I have been friends with for over 25 years, and thought perhaps I would regret it later if I didn't ask her. We have been saying we were going to be each others MOH since we were kids....(even though I wasn't hers....buuuuut it was her sister, so I kind of understand that). Who would have thought that our friends would make us feel this way? I thought that only happened in movies. hahaha.

[farlem311]

I can relate.  I have a friend that I have known for over 25 years who I was a BM at her wedding, planned her bachelorette pary, and pretty much been there for her.  I have been engaged now for a year (wedding is in June) and over the summer she informed me that she was going to try to get pregnant.  That's cool....I didn't mind.  She expressed that she was going to try to get pregnant right away or after the fall/winter.  Well she is currently pregnant and NOT able to make it to my wedding and expects me to plan her baby shower, even though I have a wedding to plan for.  I am happy for her, but she was soo into coming to my wedding, but since one of her other friends decided to get pregnant, she decided soon after.  Frustruating but there is nothing I can do about it. 

[ScorpioBride]

I feel really bad for anyone who has to deal with this. Why do people always have to make things about themselves? We only get to do this process once (hopefully, lol) and support means everything. Those who are jealous can wait their turn, it will come eventually!