RSVP STD's

[SgtPepperette]

So we are starting to get back our tentative RSVP postcards we sent out with our STD's.

 

No the people that RSVP'd no, should they get a formal invite? I would think no...and dont want to bombard them with unnecessary invites....

[meli122]

That's a tough one. I think they should get an invite as a nice gesture or if something changes and they can make it.

 

But I just asked my FI and he said no.

[SgtPepperette]

My FI said no as well. Thats why I asked the wise ones

 

Im glad I sent those RSVP cards with the STD, Im realizing I was estimating people that arent coming!

[endlesslove]

I don't plan on it. My invites are going to cost me a lot, and I don't want to send them to someone who is just going to toss it aside. I don't think they would expect to get an invite if they already said no, but then other people would say "what if they change their mind?" This is why I put an unsure option on our RSVP's for our STD's.

[Jess]

yes - etiquette says you should said out an invitation even if people tell you know from an STD

 

plus they could change their mind

[DanielleNDerek]

I sent them out to everyone. We did have 1 other person book after we sent out invites. I think with a DW you can more do what you want and not follow proper etiquette. So in otherwords do whatever you feel comfortable with.

[Bridget810]

This is my opinion:

 

If you've already purchased more than enough invites: send the invites to people you know aren't coming any how.

 

If you expect/want a gift from this person: send the invite to them (I know this sounds greedy and horrible, my apologies, but an invite is a gentle reminder of a gift sometimes)

 

If you know they aren't coming, you haven't already ordered invites and they probably won't send you a gift, don't bother.

 

Okay, I know my rules probably don't follow traditional etiquette; sorry!

[scottgm2]

Even though people may not be able to make it that like the invite as a memorable to keep