Reading each others vows???

[Dreamgirl08]

I have a question...

 

Are you or did you read each other's vows before you left to get married?

I have mine written, and he's working on his now. I have been hiding it from him for the longest, but should I be...??

[JUSTUSTWO]

We picked our vows out together before hand so I'm not sure what I would've done if we had each written them separately. With me being so nosy, as he would certainly say, I'm sure I would've made him share his with me before.

 

Think of it this way, do you think that if you hear what each other has written now that it will take away from the "moment" of hearing it for the first time on your actual day? If you don't think so, then go for it & share what you have so far.

But on the other hand, if you think you want to hear them for the 1st time on your wedding day, then don't share them.

I'm not sure I helped you but thats how I would decide

[August2010Bride]

we haven't written ours yet, but I think we will keep them hidden from each other. I think it will be more "special" and sentimental that way.

[~Stephanie~]

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Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO We picked our vows out together before hand so I'm not sure what I would've done if we had each written them separately. With me being so nosy, as he would certainly say, I'm sure I would've made him share his with me before. Think of it this way, do you think that if you hear what each other has written now that it will take away from the "moment" of hearing it for the first time on your actual day? If you don't think so, then go for it & share what you have so far. But on the other hand, if you think you want to hear them for the 1st time on your wedding day, then don't share them. I'm not sure I helped you but thats how I would decide

Couldn't have said it better! I know we are writting our own vows and as much as I would like to keep them secret for the big day to make it more special I am such a nosy control freak and I will probably want to edit his vows! lol. Ok, maybe not go that far, but I'm sure I would still give some "guidance" if I thought they needed work. It is really a matter of how comfortable you are with not knowing and being surprised. Also, a lot of guys need help in this area, if yours is one of them you may want to "assist" in making some suggestions. If he is really good at this kinda of stuff then I say wait!

[FutureMrsLewis]

I want to keep ours a secret for the big day, but I'm SUPER worried about his grammar (among other things lol) so I'm going to get FMIL to go over them and make sure they're okay before he's allowed to read them out lol Then I know they're suitable, AND they're a surprise!

[Jen_S]

We kept ours a secret until the ceremony. It was very touching to hear what he had to say and same for him. After what we said to each other we did the traditional vows which was nice that we picked out together.

[sofylina]

I think that if you want to keep them secret, you should give each other an approximate word count, that way one doesn't go way over the other.

[nibsmom]

LOL...I would probably want to hear them beforehand...

 

A - because I get so flustered about romantic stuff I'd probably crack a joke or something to take the attention off of me...

 

and B - because I'd probably be so nervous that I might not even really remember them!!

 

When I get really nervous or emotional I tend to forget things like that...I've done entire presentations and then walked out afterwards barely remembering what I had talked about. Bad, I know!