Ack! 1st Wedding "Freakout"

[JaimeLynne]

Ok - this is totally stupid (well it seems that way to me at least), but I'm bawling because I am all of a sudden feeling super overwhelmed with the wedding. Today marks the 3 month countdown, and I feel like I don't know what to do even though I've been on this forum since before I was engaged!!! It's not even one particular problem - everything's generally going well!

 

What the heck is going on? I'm on my period and have been feeling sensitive - maybe that's just adding to the stress??

 

I've been having to focus almost all of my time on health issues (whole other story entirely), and now I feel like I've not given my wedding or myself as the "bride" the necessary time or attention.

 

I texted my bridesmaids but no one answered... figured y'all would understand and let me vent though!

 

UGHHH! This whole time I've been trying to be this "easy going, chill bride" and now I'm just like "HUH? Where the heck do I go now??"

 

I don't think my MOH can relate at all... she's 31 now and has had a rotten string of relationships the past couple years, one of which just ended. I feel bad turning to her but who else am I supposed to turn to? Poor Martin has had his fair share and I know it's not right to just lean on him for my problems. (Of course, him being a "typical groom" he has no idea what to do for the wedding so I feel like I'm stuck doing it ALL - including making him ask his groomsmen to be in the wedding which he still hasn't done! )

 

Argh... seriously... I hope this is hormones and not some crazy pent up shit that is gonna keep on coming.

 

Where were you at @ your 3 month countdown??

 

I'm having a glass of wine and bawling into it - my (male) roommate came home and I don't think he knew what to make of that! (LOL)

[DanielleNDerek]

Deep breaths Jaime. Relax everything is going to be fine. You have us here to point you in the right direction. Why dont you make a list of everything you need to do. I used Becks checklist as a guide when i made my to do list. It helped a lot. She has a thread for it on here somewhere.

[DanielleNDerek]

Oh and i wanted to ad I cried so many times about wedding related stress and i thought i was a girl that wouldnt be into the whole wedding thing but boy was i wrong.

[DanielleNDerek]

Oh and i wanted to ad I cried so many times about wedding related stress and i thought i was a girl that wouldnt be into the whole wedding thing but boy was i wrong.

[Jamaica0619]

I agree....take a few deep breaths. And, I find having a list of things to do helps put in all in prespective. Plus than you can focus on one task at a time rather than the entire picture, which is much more overwhelming.

 

[JaimeLynne]

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Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek Oh and i wanted to ad I cried so many times about wedding related stress and i thought i was a girl that wouldnt be into the whole wedding thing but boy was i wrong.

Thank you!!! I think I just need to vent to some ppl who know what I'm going through, KWIM!? I haven't been on here in forever and I miss you girls!!

Where is that checklist? Do you think you could help me find it? I've looked up checklists online but they don't seem to be of any help - I feel so behind on everything, and so alone in it all! I hate feeling like I can't bother anyone to ask for help. UGH - character flaw.

[ashey063009]

Well I`m not quite there yet, but I`m so happy you are able to vent it out here. I wanted to send you a GIANT virtual hug! It`ll get better. Damn that time of the month!

 

HUGZ!! HUGZ!!

[JaimeLynne]

Oh and what's even more lame is I'm completely freaking out about getting my skin cleared up, losing weight, finding some way to be tan... totally superficial things!

 

All anyone can really say is it's going to work out (one of my BMs just txted me that), and I know that. So why am I freaking out??

[JaimeLynne]

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Originally Posted by ashey063009 Well I`m not quite there yet, but I`m so happy you are able to vent it out here. I wanted to send you a GIANT virtual hug! It`ll get better. Damn that time of the month! HUGZ!! HUGZ!!

lol - thanks! I'll take all the virtual hugs I can get!

And maybe one of these:

[JUSTUSTWO]

Awww Jaime, you'll be fine! If this is the first wedding related "freakout" that you've had, with 3 months to go, I'd say you were good!

I probably had more than a few breakdowns during my planning and can recall many outbursts of crying.

And no, DH didn't understand exactly why I was crying & really didn't know what he was supposed to do! He did listen & knew that it was all wedding stress so that did help. But like you, I felt funny going to him about it.

 

Anyway, don't worry. Like you said, you've had alot going on lately & you should just chalk this is up to normal, wedding stress, that unfortunately, brides get the pleasure of experiencing!!!

 

Danielle's suggestion was great regarding making a list of things to do so you know exactly where you're at. Everything will fall into place soon enough.

 

Finish your wine, get all the crying out & start fresh tomorrow!