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So my FMIL calls my fiance the other night and told him, a guest that his mother wanted to invite to our AHR called last night to ask if she could bring herself and 2 other guests. Even though the invition was addressed to Mrs X and guest. I couldnt believe that this person actually had the nerve to call and ask if she could bring another guest.

It really makes me mad for many reasons:

1. I dont even know the lady, she is my FI Mom's friend but they havent talked in like 5 years

2. My parents are paying for the dinner. His mother has not even offered to pay for her guests

3. It kind of makes my mad that his mom would not say no, that she is now putting it on us to look bad. She really has no idea how much this wedding is costing

4. This is a bad reason, but this guest came to my bridal shower and she got my the cheapest and uglest gift ever!

 

Then I had another guest send back their reply card and under the # attending she put 3!!!! I was like dont people understand when its addressed to Guest it only means 1!!!!!

 

So do you think its rude if I get my FI to tell his mom to call her and tell her that we want to keep #'s down, so she can only bring one guest?

 

Sorry girls kind of long, but its really bugging me!

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Sarah,

I don't think it's rude....They should understand that it is not free. I think if you politely decline then it should be alright. It wouldn't look bad, it would look responsible.....

You're all adults, so they should act like it.

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sarah, if your parents are paying i think it would be rude NOT to say something to this lady. just say you have maxed out the number of people in your budget so the invite is for her only. PERIOD! no need to explain or feel bad or feel like you are being rude.

 

sheesh some people need to be smacked in the head.

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sarah, if your parents are paying i think it would be rude NOT to say something to this lady. just say you have maxed out the number of people in your budget so the invite is for her only. PERIOD! no need to explain or feel bad or feel like you are being rude.

sheesh some people need to be smacked in the head.
I agree!!!
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i agree i don't think it's rude. just remind fmil that you have a budget you need to stick to.

 

fmil invited 2 guests to our wedding. fi and i weren't even thinking of inviting them, fmil didn't ask if she could invite them, she just did. we got into a big argument about it. it wasn't so much making room for these people that bothered me, but i don't think you can just go around inviting people to someone else's event without asking them first. now, that's what's rude.

 

fmil offered to pay for the additional guests at least.

 

but yeah, tell your fmil to pass on the word that this friend can only bring one guest for budget reasons. don't worry about looking bad.

 

though i'm really wondering what this cheap and ugly gift was. i totally think that's a legit reason. but i'm a b!tch like that!!!

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