Kids or No Kids?

angel1416 · February 20, 2009

I'm looking for some guidance for inviting or not inviting children to my wedding in Mexico. My brother has 2 small children and there are some young cousins that are in the 8-12 year range. My thinking right now is that I would prefer for children not to attend. We're trying to keep our guest list small, inviting only parents, grandparents, and aunts & uncles. Is it wrong of me not to include my niece/nephew and the younger cousins, especially with the distance their parents would have to travel? For those of you with kids, would you enjoy this weekend away or stress about your children at home? Thanks in advance!

DanielleNDerek · February 20, 2009

I dont have kids but I think it should be your call. Did you pick a resort? If you dont want kids you could pick an adults only resort than its more out of your hands. Maybe it wouldnt hurt feelings. Maybe your bro would like to go away with out his kids? would he have anyone that could watch them?

Bridget810 · February 20, 2009

Ultimately it is up to you. However, keep in mind, that some people will not want to (or be able to) come if they can't bring their kids. I toyed with the idea for awhile, but ultimately allowed kids--but it looks like we are only having 2 come. Seems like a lot of parents (in my case) are looking at my wedding as a second honeymoon! Of course, if you have your heart set on a resort that doesn't allow children, I would stick with the venue.

hsims1 · February 20, 2009

I completely understand your delima. But I do think it is ultimately up to you. Perhaps a resort that also has a sister resort that allows children. We are most likely doing adults only, upon doing an initial poll with everyone, most of the folks that will be coming that have children are using this as a getaway. The others are not able to come due to the expense. So we will most likely have a reception/party when we get back for everyone that could not attend the wedding.

Celina · February 21, 2009

It's kind of hard to say. On one hand you have people who may not be able to find sitters, or if the kids are school age, can't find someone to take them to and from school while they are out so they may treat this as a family vacation.

If you do an adults only hotel, those that come with kids may have to stay at a different hotel; in that case they may have to purchase day passes in order to attend and then who will pay for that?

I know - lots to consider, but I hope this helps!

jenjoe08 · May 8, 2009

Think about who you absolutely want at your wedding. If any of those people have young children, they may not be able to travel to a destination wedding without them. That being said... We invited people with their children. We have our responses back now and here is where we are: Some guests are bringing their children to the wedding. One guest is bringing her nanny along on the trip, so the child will be on the trip, but not at the wedding. Two other guests have told me they plan on hiring one of the resort's nannies to stay with the children in their guest room during the wedding.