Non-Traditional/Non-"Sappy" Readings and Ceremony

[maxandkatie]

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Originally Posted by Chanti Thank you so much!!! This is very helpful. Getting married at Dreams Tulum in 28 days from today and just now we started thinking about the ceremony and vows...

Glad I can help!!

[maxandkatie]

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Originally Posted by purrfected Katie, I love your vows. I think I just might have to steal them!!!

No worries!! I stole them from somewhere online!! LOL!! I'm glad I can help, it was hard finding words that were right for us.

[amybermuda]

OK so this is a bit sappy but I love it! I read it at a friend's wedding and I am going to have it read at mine too:

 

The Art of marriage

 

The little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands

It is remembering to say, "I love you" at least once a day.

 

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is not time taking the other for granted;

the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,

it should continue thought all the years.

 

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude

of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

 

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating

gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

 

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a

sense of humour.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

 

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,

dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

 

It is not only marrying the right partner,

It is being the right partner.

[futurerana]

Ok, I have a dumb question. I have never really thought about weddings, vows etc until now that I am getting married, so my question is, who reads these things? Is it the bride and groom, or the officiant and if it is the officiant, do they get offended if you tell them what to read? I am getting married in two weeks and we aren't the romantic types either but I don't think I want it to be a 5 minute ceremony either.

[Lindz]

Thank you for the helpful pointers!!

[adales]

These are great.  Thanks for sharing!

[laurinmarie]

Reading: Kendall “Unionâ€
 

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with "When we're married" and continued with "I will and you will and we will" - those late night talks that included "someday" and "somehow" and "maybe" - and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.

All these common things, and more, are the real process of wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, "You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed - well, I meant it all, every word."

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another - acquaintance, friend, companion, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this - is my husband, this - is my wife.

[Kathryn Fischer]

This is beautiful!!!! Wonderfully nontraditional! Thank you for sharing!!!

[Make2dayAmazing]

Great thread!

[Kyliewylie]

Katrina I love it, thank you for posting!