Not Having Flowers?

sunsetbride1 · February 5, 2009

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Originally Posted by BeautifulBridetoBe

I think you'll be just fine without flowers.

Different people equate different things with weddings. For some, the cake must be fruit, you must serve alcohol and flowers are non-negotiable...and that is OK...for THEM.

But you envision your wedding differently...and that is OK, too.

For example, we are not having any fresh flowers -silks only. One of my guests was aghast when she heard. She told me "You can't have a wedding without REAL flowers!" Yes, we can. I understand that flowers are her ideal. But for me, the only must haves on my wedding day are my FI's love and God's presence. The rest is a bonus.

The beauty of a DW is that it is unique in its own right...and so it frees you from at-home wedding "must haves" and "must dos". In a tropical paradise, you are not tied to tradition, but free to celebrate YOUR DAY, YOUR WAY.

Enjoy your flower-free wedding.

Thanks for putting it in prospective BeautifulBrideToBe... You have hit the nail on the head!
For me, I can envision everything ... with both myself and the girls just having gorgeous handmade feather hairflowers as adornment.

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Originally Posted by lolkitteh

I'm with you - for me, flowers are a big expense that you get little value from. I'm not having any other flowers or decorations other than my bouquet and the attendant bouquets. The Vegas chapel I'm using looks nice enough.

My feeling is on flowers is that if you have them, people might notice them for a second or two, and then completely forget them, and if you don't have them, no one would notice, especially since you're on a beach. In all the weddings I've been to, I have never noticed the presence of lack of flowers - they are a completely forgettable aspect of a wedding for me. However, I do think it would be nice to carry *something* though - One thing people look for is the bride's bouquet. A single cala lilly as suggested earliar would be lovely.

I also personally need something to do with my hands - I'll be nervous enough as it is without trying to figure out what the deal is with my hands. OTOH, I'm walking down the aisle unaccompanied - if you have someone giving you away, it's probably easier to deal with than my situation.

lolkitteh.. I LOVE your name!! I am obsessed with LOL Cats; one of my friends and I have days where that is the only way we communicate via email.

Anyway, I agree.. I doubt anyone will notice if I have flowers or not. I was married once before and I was so nervous; I walked down the aisle without my flowers. Noone noticed but me! LOL.

Thanks everyone for reassuring me!

lolkitteh · February 6, 2009

Hehehe. I <3 lolcats!

You're the first one on this board to get my username!

Anyway, congratulations and good luck with the wedding - it'll be beautiful without a single petal. :-)

Mother of Bride · February 8, 2009

Guess what I'm finding out on the forum is that whatever YOU want to do is OK....some brides are way too picky & must be so stressed out by the time their big day comes they can't even enjoy themselves. Do what YOU want & don't be swayed by what others think you should have....its YOUR wedding ! RELAX, everything will be fine....Don't "sweat the small stuff"