Lying to me for 5 Months!!

[petunia]

My life partner of 19 years went out Christmas shopping one morning and never returned. In a nutshell, he was seeing someone else and she found out about me, called me, and he was totally busted on all fronts. I never heard from him again until I got lawyers involved with the joint ownership of the house.

 

My point is, I didn't tell anyone for the longest time. The only one who knew was my adult son (not his) who was living at home. Christmas came and went, and I said I was sick rather than go to family gatherings. I didn't tell friends. I completely shut myself off from the outside world until I came to grips with it myself. Would I take him back if he came back? How would I support myself when we lived a two-income lifestyle? I went through a gazillion different emotions: hurt, humiliation, anger, fear. It was all so new, so raw. My whole world, my future, was pulled out from under me.

 

This is probably what your dad is experiencing a bit. If your mother found out, then he's probably working his way back into the real world. Take your cues from your father about reacting. He'll get over it and move on with life. Three years later I met the most wonderful man and plan to get married.

 

Your dad is so fortunate to have such wonderful, caring, supportive daughters.

 

And, froggie, I'm so so sorry to hear about your grandfather.