Invite wording when couples pay

[DGG]

We are trying to figure out wording for our invites - for all of you that paid for the wedding yourselves, did you include your parents names on the invites? Or 'together with parents'.

Since we are paying for the wedding and we both have been out of our family's homes for over 10 years - is it correct etiquette to leave our parents out or should we just include them so no feelings are hurt

Just wondering how other ppl handled this...

[Hartyt509]

We've paid for everything and in fact we had booked the wedding and had our flights before we told FMIL so that she had no say lol

 

Therefore the invitations have come from us no mention of parents. My dad isn't bothered at all (he's not coming to the wedding) and mum died years ago and if i am truly honest i don't give a crap about whether his lot are hurt or not lol

 

Again its for you to decide what YOU want, sod tradition its about you and FI

[Betsy]

We included our parents names, even though we did pay for the wedding ourselves, both sets of parents have always been supportive of us so we just wanted to do it that way - it really is up to you though - Maybe "together with their parents" or something??

[DGG]

I guess we should put "together with their parents" after our names just so they are included somehow - like you said Betsy, even though we are paying for the wedding, they have been supportive of us in other ways..

But my other question, my FI's mother passed away years ago - it is still correct to write "together with their parents" right

[Betsy]

I think if you just did a simple "together with their parents" it would be okay - If you decide to put Mr. and Mrs. yourparents together with Mr. and Mrs. Fi's parents then it might get a little tough - but just keep it simple. I don't really know any "rules" on this - it is just my opinion though

[Inked1]

I planned on putting my parents on the invite, we are paying most but they are shuffling their timeshare so we can use it for honeymoon.

 

I thought I would share what I borrowed from my parents wedding invite, it was appropriate for a DW.

"We invite you to witness their vows. If you are unable to attend we ask your presence in thought...."

[sunsetbride1]

It's a completely personal decision.

We are paying for the wedding ourselves and we didn't feel the need to put FI's mother or my father on there; and neither of them should be offended. My understanding has always been that the parents are on there if they are paying or helping to pay for the wedding.

That being said, if you want to include your parents; I am sure that they will be touched.

[stacey]

My parents paid for the wedding, but they are divorsed and both remarried. So instead of going through that mess we put:

Your pressence is requested at the marriage of, blah blah blah

 

All sets of parents were pleasantly happy with that wording.

[YoursTruly]

The Honor of Your presence is fair enough