Pre-Marital Counselling

[kay726]

I am in the process of doing premarital counseling and I was suprised how helpful it has been. I orginally didn't think it was necessary because my FI and I have been together for 6 years, but it has helped us look at things from a different angle and also helped us deal with the crazy behavior of our family towards the wedding.

[MagsieMexico]

I'd like to do one, I have read that pre marital counselling is one of the high indicators for successful marriage. I mean, everything is fine, and we communicate really well also, but people tell me that you would be surprised at the types of things that may come up.

 

By the way, I also have that 1000 questions book, and it is fun! We sometimes do it when we are out for a coffee on a weekend or something. It's not really helpful I wouldn't say, just kind of more of an interesting thing to do when bored.

[dragonfly]

We will not be doing councelling now, but having said that we have done it on numerous occasions throughout our many years together. When we first moved in together we fought about the children alot, our roles were blurred, blending families was difficult so we sought an impartial view, it helped. We went again after our baby was born, again very stressful finding our place and learning how to be parents to the same child, we also had our childrens issues over their new sibling, which added stress to us. We then sought councelling 2 years after my daughter fell ill, she had been sick for so long and we forgot to focus on each other all we took care of was the kids, not each other, we needed to figure out how to understand each other, and learn how to reconnect while dealing with issues that were not going to go away. We then once again did a little mini session (I didn't want to go Everton made me) when my dad suddenly passed away (I was not easy to live with) Marriage is tough, and when faced with the little (or big) bumps along the way I think it is good to seek help, I didn't the first time around in my first marriage, this marriage is going to last and I will do the work it takes to make sure it does.

 

Take the councelling it sets you up for a successful marriage.

 

Kelly~

[gkashmira]

We are not doing it but we have lived together for 6 years. However I will say that if we didn't live together I think it is a good idea. There are a lot of things that will drive you crazy you move in with someone. Honestly, we had a tough year our first year in the same (studio) apartment. I think knowing how youre going to pay your bills together, whether you're going to have children - how many you're going to have, who cooks, who cleans the bathroom, etc. etc.

[andreslove]

We went through pre-marital counseling and I would recommend it for everyone. Since we were together 6 years before getting married, my hubby didn't see the need to go through it originally. But once we went, both of us enjoyed it and benefited from it. It's something about having an impartial person there that helps clear things up. We went through a Christian counselor, so it was interesting to hear and see things from that perspective.

 

I say go for it. Even if things are good, it won't hurt but can definitely help!

[Shelley]

At first I figured nah because we've already been living togeter for a while, but based on everything I've heard and read I really want to now. However, the only ones I seem to find are through churches, which I assume you can't go to if you're not a member of any church. Melissa, did you have any luck finding a place?

 

For everyone that did attend, how long before your wedding did you go? Is it just a session or 2? I'm clueless here...