What do you think about guests bringing random guests?

[BarefootBride]

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Originally Posted by lil_miss_frogg My two cents....If they are paying for the room and flight themselves I don't see a problem with it. If you had intended on this friend to bring her boyfriend to begin with then it's not really an extra plate.

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Originally Posted by JulieG I had 3 random guests at my wedding and it was not an issue, in my mind, at all. They paid for themselves to come and were keeping friends that I teally wanted there company. If I had any issues with the people I would have said they could not come to the wedding, but I have no say over who goes to the resort, and I would not even try to tell someone no. So I think IMHO they have every right to bring a friend, but you have to tell them politely that they can't come to dinner due to costs and your friend should totally understand and respect that.

I agree with these two ladies. You probably wont even noticed the friend... or many of the guest. The day is going to go by so fast that you might not get a chance to adsorb it all in especially if you have a decent size wedding. It was just the two of us, but actually alot of the resort guest sort of showed up at our wedding - a little far away or watching from their bures (houses) - but I didnt even notice or get mad enough to care. In fact I wouldnt have minded at all if they were closer.

[KathleenandDan]

Well SAID!!!!!!!

[clmarti1]

I am having the same issue with my cousin who is a bridesmaid! Since she is relative, she is staying at the villa with my family for free. The villa only 10 people to stay there. After buying her ticket, she informs me that one of her friends (who I do not know) is coming to the wedding with her. I told her that there is no room in the villa. I guess she didn't understand because her response was, "well we'll just share a bed". I didn't know what to say because I know that she is still a college student and cannot afford to pay for her own hotel which is why she is staying with my family in the villa. But because her friend is staying in the villa, my mom cannot have my aunt stay at the villa because it would put her over the 10 person limit. I really dont know what to do, but am annoyed at my cousin being so inconsiderate. On the otherhand, I know that it's probably not the safest for her to be traveling alone but still she should have asked before assuming her friend also had a free stay in PV!!!!

[Mishi]

Cindy M, your's sounds completely different... she needs a "come to Jesus talk", lol. It is one thing if guests are paying for everything on their own but if you have an intimate villa with ten guests... you don't want some strange person there while you are in your panties getting ready.

 

You need to just tell her you don't mind if the person comes but she will have to have her own accommodations... what can she say to that. She is just young and doesn't understand.

[clmarti1]

Mishi, you're right! I'm just not a confrontational person so that's a little hard for me to do! Haha! It's just irritating because if someone like my aunt really needs a place to stay because she can't afford it, I can't offer her a free stay at the villa! I think I will have a talk to her about the stay though!

[NJ_bride]

I think the guest issue is the same as any other wedding. The couple decides if singles are invited with guests or not based on cost and words the invitation accordingly. "And Guest" means any guest of that persons choice. If you think someone might bring someone you don't want there as their guest best not to invite them with a guest. I invited all my singles with guests, some came with, some without. I saw it as an opportunity to included more potential friends.

 

One important note: if someone brings a guest they are responsible for that persons behavior in my opinion. This was a big issue for hubby and I. Luckily we had no issues in Jamaica but I would put that out there. If so and so's date gets drunk and naked at your reception they are gonna hear about it! LOL!

[Hartyt509]

One of my friends when I asked her to the wedding said "oh I'll bring (lets call her bitch face!) lol I said no you won't she said "no i mean this bitch face" I said yep I know who you mean and no I can't stand her and want to punch her face in every time i see her so she is NOT invited lol she got the message and funny enough they don't even speak anymore unless they have to lol

 

I have no problem with people accompaying people on the actual holiday, thats entirely up to them, however the wedding is a different story. I'm paying per person so they can bloody well live with it and if they don't like it don't come.

 

I had this convo with a male friend of mine who wanted to bring a random g/f who he fights with constantly!! I said no way lol He's not coming and you know what i'm not bothered less agro.

 

Just be straight with her and say yes to the holiday no to the wedding

[boscobel]

OMG, I just cracked up at "let's call her bitch face"! Hahhahaaha, I had to tell my co-worker. So funny.

[Hartyt509]

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Originally Posted by carly OMG, I just cracked up at "let's call her bitch face"! Hahhahaaha, I had to tell my co-worker. So funny.

That's one of the nicer things I call her lol she's the type you just wouldn't get sick of punching lol

[GracieBebe]

I think it's completely your perogative who you wish to have at your wedding and who you don't.

 

For instance, we are having a few of our guests who are single bring a date, because we don't want for them to have to travel all that way and be alone. However, we are not allowing FH's twin brother to bring his g/f of 8 years because in the past few months (as well as the last 8 years but definitely more so lately), she's done some really disrespectful, atrocious things to FH that really crossed the line with no apologies (and FH's twin was aware of all those things cuz he was copied on all of the emails that went back and forth) so she has been banned from attending our wedding. Granted, we understand that it probably means FH's twin brother will not come without her, but FH is aware of the repercussions and it was solely his decision.