Are you having a bridal shower?

[Myda77]

My sister was planning on throwing me a bridal shower, so FI and I finally went to the store to register and could barley find anything to register for! We already live together and have all the usual items, so we just kinda scanned a ton of stuff we don't really need. I can think of about 3 things on that list I actually want. Also, I have hard a few comments coming from family members/guests who said they weren't giong to buy any gifts because they were coming to the wedding. So I was feeling kinda bad, because my sister would basically be the only one footing the bill for the shower, and I wouldn't want her to go through the trouble and have 5 people show up (how embarassing). I thought about it and told her not to worry about throwing the shower. We are still giong to keep the registry just in case people who can't make it to the wedding want to get us a gift. I am now kinda feeling bad that I am not having a shower since I have been a guest at so many of them and now I don't get one. I don't know what to do now. What do you ladies think?

[lolo]

well that sucks!!

I am having a shower only because my "girls" want to throw it.

I have no idea who will come and I don't need anything. I also want it to be fun. So many showers are not fun!!

I do think that the wedding shower is all about the bride and gifts should be for YOU! Maybe sexy nighties, or massages. Something you would like but wouldn't buy for yourself.

If you live together already you don't need more "stuff"

If only 5 people show up then so what you girls ahve fun!

If your sister really wants to do this for you then it doesn't matter,(just don't spend too much)

[SoonToBeE]

It depends. I didn't want a shower and I hate showers. I hate giving up a Sunday for a lame party, with lame games (sorry...bit of a shower cynic!)

 

That all changed after my shower.

 

At first I didn't want it and was really nervous beforehand - it feels awkward to open gifts in front of so many people and we didn't really register for much. I also felt guilty about making people who were spending so much money spend even more money.....

 

But the shower was great - a lot of the people who came were people who couldn't make it to the wedding. For them it was a chance to celebrate with us before the event. It was thrown by my FI's aunt and was attended by his parents, family and his parent's friends.

 

The great thing about a shower is that if people don't want to come, they don't have to. If they don't want to get a big gift, they don't have to. I think you should have one if people are asking for it, and I think you will be surprised at who actually comes....!

 

Also - maybe try to go back and register again, it's nice to start your lives together with nice things - even things like new towels are a nice little addition.

 

Those are my two cents...I'm a reformed shower hater. I think they are pretty special now : )

[Erika J]

Well said Soon to be Mrs E!

[Sloan]

My friends/family arent allowed to throw me a shower... not my idea of fun. However, FI's family are renting a limo for 14 of us to go to Niagara-on-the-Lake for a wine tour in February. I obviously allowed that. Haha.

[BeautifulBridetoBe]

I also thought I didn't want one because I hated the thought of asking people to come and buy me presents. But as time draws nearer, I am beginning to feel that it may be nice to be celebrated...all brides should be in a way that makes them comfortable. So my mother has decided to throw one for me because we are having an all-child wedding party...hence no MOH or BM to throw one.

 

What I think makes me a little upset is the attitude of your guests...they are not buying you anything because they are not going to your wedding? Their gift is tied to their attendance? So a gift is the price of admission? If close friends or family have said this, then that is truly unfortunate. It is not about them...your wedding is a time to celebrate your commitment and this new step in your life.

 

Don't be embarrassed about having a small shower...those that truly love you will be there. So if it is 5 people, then celebrate with those 5 in a way that makes you happy and comfortable. Perhaps not a full blown shower, but a tiny "sprinkle"....doing something you like in an afternoon out: lunch and a movie, afternoon tea, a spa day, etc. I'd personalize it and make it more your style and very cosy.

 

Five may be just the right number...

[2bebridejamaica]

As already having my shower I am going to agree with Mrs E on this one. I was unsure on how much if or why I wanted to be the center of attention of something. The people that came already spent more than enough to be in Jamaica.. why have a shower for them to think they now need to dish out more.

 

Jay's mom said we needed to registar somewhere because people were already asking for ideas on things because they could not find us in any store. Jay and I bought our house 2 years ago... I have been living on my own since I was 19... so we had everything we needed. Granted some of my stuff is ancient because it was orig my grandparents .. but I liked it like that.. But it was def time to retire somethings. So on a long day trip to BBB and Target I actually found somethings... totally not conventional at all .. but I added things you always need or just won't spend the money on even if it is 20 bucks. So we put down a new camping tent, canopy, a "big" boy sleeping bag for our son, organizers for closets, small kitchen gagets for the drawer, and a folding card table to name a few. Yes, we bought new dishes.. but they are only Corelle.. no China here.. just added for a set of 12 (3 boxes) 2 to keep out now and then 1 to save for when we needed more for a holiday or breakage.

 

I ended up with 2 showers .. my surprise family(Jay's side) one which was at Nana's retirement home (she had been sick the week before so they changed venues becasue this shower was for her to see is and also enjoy the day). Everything was decorated pretty simple and I had about 13 people. This was my old school shower, that as far as they were concerned I needed to have because that's what you do for a bride local or destination.

 

My second shower, was by my MOH and I had 8 people for that. It was all my local friends and we hung out at my MOH's house again some balloons and the best damn flamingos I have ever seen in my life... they dance and shake to the music. It was all about hanging out really... It was classified before the day was out ... my Naughty and Nice shower... we played some silly games, which turned into drinking games, and then everyone bought me new unmentionables.

 

Who cares who comes to your shower and if you end up with only 5 people... enjoy the day of being a bride.. it's a special day for you and to celebrate all things you and your soon to be hubby! Size really doesn't apply as long as you have fun! LOL

[Myda77]

Thanks ladies, my sister says the same thing! She is going to continue with her planning. At this point if 10 people show up I will be happy just the same

[kerryjbrown]

3 of my girlfriends are throwing us a co-ed joint shower with about 50-60 people. They are being very secretive and not telling us what the plan is but they have been meeting 2x a month for 3 months to organize it. Should be fun as I didn't want a traditional with silly games but a get together of friends. We are not registering so we have said no gifts, so it should be more like a party hopefully.

[sunsetbride1]

I didn't want a shower and told my girls that early on. I have been living on my own for over 10 years and bw FI/I we already have 2 of everything since we moved in together.

 

My MOH and BP has insisted on throwing me one anyway.. so they are doing lingerie shower for me instead before I do my BD shoot so I don't have spend extra money on buying outfits for the shoot in addition to stuff for the honeymoon!!