Friends engagement- am I overreacting?

[jamaica2009bride]

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Originally Posted by SoonToBeE He made it about him and it was so grating because of the way he handled it - he even proposed after many family members begged him not to, and the bride even asked that he not do it.

I can't believe he did it even after everyone asked him NOT to!!! That is pretty....brave?

You are right, though, one of the main reasons this whole thing bothered me was because I know she will make a very big deal about it. Neither myself or my FH like getting too much attention (I know, you'd never say it by reading my first post on this thread) and I think that because she loves attention that it will quickly become a celebration of her. But maybe by the time he pops the question I will be ready for the attention to be focused on someone else!

[SoonToBeE]

Oh yeah...even after the bride told him not to (because she wanted the newly engaged girl to be able to celebrate...instead of feel awkward at another wedding) he went ahead and did it.

 

Right after the ceremony he walked up to the bride and said 'your wedding was beautiful, it's what I would want, except our wedding is going to be so big we won't be able to do it like this'....WHAT? She had only been married 5 minutes and you're already talking about your wedding?

 

Sorry....still slightly bothered : P

[Hartyt509]

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Originally Posted by SoonToBeE Oh yeah...even after the bride told him not to (because she wanted the newly engaged girl to be able to celebrate...instead of feel awkward at another wedding) he went ahead and did it. Right after the ceremony he walked up to the bride and said 'your wedding was beautiful, it's what I would want, except our wedding is going to be so big we won't be able to do it like this'....WHAT? She had only been married 5 minutes and you're already talking about your wedding? Sorry....still slightly bothered : P

I'd have punched him in the mouth!

[SoonToBeE]

Luckily the bride was in wedded bliss, so she shook it off.

 

This is also the same person who was suppossed to be in our wedding and backed out because it was too expensive (which I understand) and then just went to Mexico and on a huge ski vacation. My FI is upset about it because he feels so let down by his cousin....which makes me angry because I hate it when people hurt my man!

 

Another moral of the story - weddings make people crazy! And they reveal some people's true character....which can be lovely, or sad....

 

So....to bring this back to the thread I hijacked....I hope that your wedding shows you a lovely side of your friend and her boyfriend : )

[jamaica2009bride]

lol so do I. I got worked up over nothing....talk about weddings bringing out the worst in people- I am certainly learning some things about myself!!

 

And I agree, SoonToBeE, weddings certainly do bring out different sides of people. I've really learned a lot about my friends and family through this whole thing- lots of good, some not so good!!

 

For example...my FH's best man/twin brother just cancelled, two months before the wedding...ohhhhhhh myyyyy...Another story for another day!

[SunBride]

I completely understand how you feel and I think it's reasonable. That being said, if they want to get engaged on your trip, they are totally allowed to. And people will definitely remember this trip for your wedding rather than your friend's engagement.

[SoonToBeE]

That's terrible that his brother cancelled! I'm sorry to hear that. It's sad when you find that family may not be as reliable as you had thought. Old politics seem to rise to the surface.

 

For us some people got really angry that we were having a DW and now aren't coming (it feels like they aren't coming out of spite...but I'm sure that's not all of it...).

 

My FI is pretty broken up about it....but really, it is their loss. Our wedding will be AMAZING : P

 

We had friends so angry at us for having our wedding on a Wednesday (would be hard for them to fly out for a few days), so we changed our date....and then they didn't come! So funny....

 

I'm glad that you have decided to be as relaxed as possible about your friend's potential proposal. Also, if everyone knows her stance (ie. I just want the ring) they'll likely be less than thrilled for them.

 

Have a blast on your wedding, it sounds like the break will be really enjoyable for you : )